The Bible is clear that parents are not to provoke their children to wrath. Rather, parents are to bring up their children in the nurture and instruction of the law of God.
The law of God includes both punishments and rewards for the children of God, but if a person is a child of God, God is never one to abuse or neglect the child. Similarly, as a parent is to represent the providence of God to their child, they are not to abuse or neglect their children. To abuse or to neglect a child is to not represent the providence of God well and is therefore ungodly.