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My first reaction is to go to the Branch President/Bishop with what I know and with as much documentation as possible. IF it is the Branch President or Bishop, then I would go to the Stake President. |
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I agree with AGene. If there is NO doubt of the sin, it should be taken to the Bishop or Branch President (Stake President if the Bishop is involved). You have become a witness to the transgression. |
While I was in the Air Force, this type of situation would frequently come up in various briefings and classes. In legal matters, if you know that a crime has been committed, and you approach the perpetrator and urge them to turn themselves in, you can be considered an accessory to the crime. That is, you knew about it, you knew about the perpetrator, and didn't report the crime.
So, I guess that that is where I am coming from. You are right that we should give the person the opportunity to confess. But that confession can come AFTER being reported, and still be valid, depending on the person's motivation and humility. However, what happens most of the time (in my limited experience) is that the perpetrator attempts to rationalize and excuse the behavior, and would keep putting you off with reasons why they wouldn't approach their authorities.
If those caught in the transgression are wealthy, you can always blackmail them. "Well, Sister Smith, I see you are having an affair with Bro. Jones. Pay me $10,000 and I will keep quiet". Which brings up the next question, Do you have to pay tithing on extortion money?
OK, seriously, I think I would speak to the parties involved and give them the opportunity to go to the Bishop themselves rather than me being a tattletale.
Another thought.....What if you are aware of a serious transgression and the Bishop lets the transgressors off without punishment? Do you accept his decision or do you persue it further?
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Another thought.....What if you are aware of a serious transgression and the Bishop lets the transgressors off without punishment? Do you accept his decision or do you persue it further? |
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Another thought.....What if you are aware of a serious transgression and the Bishop lets the transgressors off without punishment? Do you accept his decision or do you persue it further? |
While I believe the correct thing to do is go to the offender and let them know I was aware of their behavior, encourage them to confess, and tell them if they don't go to the bishop, I will. However, in reality, I am more of a coward than that. SO, I would either go to the bishop or in my case more likely the Relief Society President, and ask them if they were aware of what was going on. If they weren't, I would tell them.
Now, if it was a close friend, I would be more likely to counsel the friend directly and less likely to report to the biship or RS president.
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Now, if it was a close friend, I would be more likely to counsel the friend directly and less likely to report to the biship or RS president. |
You do like to ask the tough questions, don't you. I am not sure what I would do, to be perfectly honest.
I believe the correct thing to do would to be loving but firm and explain to them why I couldn't allow them to continue to do what they were doing and continue to serve in there church callings and attend the Temple, etc. That they must confess or I would have to report what I knew because I couldn't be a party to them mocking sacred things.
In reality, it would probably depend upon exactly what their church activities were. For example, if they are attending sacrament, but their calling is the activities committee or finding meals for the missionaries, or librarian or geneologist, my decision might be different than if they were in a leadership position or a position where they were teaching others. It shouldn't matter, but it might make a difference in my ability to rationalize my behavior.
Now, this is what I think I would do. However, I absolutely believe I would pray fervently and earnestly to the Lord for assistance in how to handle the situation. I believe, based upon my past behaviors, that if I became convinced that the Lord was answering my prayers with the instruction that I needed to report this behavior, I would. So, in the end, I think I would pray for guidance and do what the Spirit led me to do. At least, I hope I would since his is how I try to live my life always.