Thanks for answering Pianomom. The reason I asked is because I know a couple of moms who think forcing a child to go on a mission is the right thing to do and it bothers me. If a child doesn't want to serve, it is his/her choice and they shouldn't be forced just like President Kimball in your quote:
The way I look at spouses working; the primary duties of one spouse are the secondary duties of the other spouse. So each is responsible to support the other in their duties and if one falls, to even pick up the slack as much as possible.
In this economy some families need to be realistic. In a perfect world the ideal will be mom at home baking pumpkin pie but it isn't like that. Sometimes the ingredients for that pumpkin pie is more than the family can afford, so mom needs to work to help. You can try to paint a pretty picture around it but its as simple as that.
1. By saying that both the husband and the wife are the providers for the temporal needs of the family, it does not necessarily follow, does it, that both provide for the temporal needs of the family in the same way? In other words, maybe the father brings home the bacon, and the wife cooks it.
2. That may depend upon individual cases. Does the husband expect his wife to work outside the home in order to provide luxuries for the family or necessities?
3. That is not according to the Lord's instructions.
Both.
Just recently in my ward, a young stay home mom has to go now and get a job after her husband was diagnosed with a disease that won't allow him to work anymore.