Divorce is never easy and I can tell you that is should be easier if you both still care for each other. When I went through mine 13 years ago I do not think I would have been able to post here is I was a member it was not a pretty sight. But that is past and I am more able to think clearly now.
Sorry Oinodaemon, unfortunately you are not responding to any of the Role-playing Game threads you started so GMaster status and the related features have been removed.