In Islam one of the basic beliefs stems from the ability of one man to have more than one woman as his wife. However, in countries where it is only legal to have one woman as wife what would a Muslim do? Consider the following:
* Is a Muslim higher than the law of the land in that he can be married by rights to a second or third wife regardless to the law of the land?
* When is having a second wife necessary or allowed?
* Which verses in the Quran enable / show / disclose that Plurality in Marriage is correct?
Trinidad... I am no Muslim and no expert... though I studied Quran, Hadith, and Sharia law with Sunna Muslims for about a year...
From my recollection, by direction in the Quran, there is no mandate that a man should have more than one wife. If he is content with one... fine. The limit for wives is four... and only if specifics rules apply.
That means if the laws of a nation where a Muslim man sojourns or is a citizen forbids polygamy, then the Muslim is not breaking Islamic law as I see it by abiding by that nations laws regarding it.
He has an option... live within the parameters of the law or move.
Generally speaking... the Quran Text speaks thus:
"If you fear lest you may not be perfectly equitable in treating more than one wife, then you shall be content with one." (Surah 4:3 An Nisaa)
"You cannot be equitable in a polygamous relationship, no matter how hard you try." (Surah 4:129 An Nisaa)
This sounds to me that one wife is the ideal... though interpreted sharia law imposes the following as 'conditions' for taking up to four wives... financial, physical and emotional ability, equal treatment of the wives, the approval of the prospective female to this kind of marriage, no close relative or two sisters at the same time, and that the number of wives is limited to up to four.
But hey... we know that this is not followed among many Muslims that take more than one wife.
Muhammed had his 18 wives after the death of his wife Kadija of 25 years. These included Aisha, his first after Kadija, whom he engaged at six and wedded at 9 years of age.
SteveB
I spoke with a devotee Muslim yesterday who explained that Muslim men locally (Trinidad, but anywhere for that matter) do have more than one wife. In fact, he exclaimed that it is a common practise. The first wife is usually married through the law and Imam and then the second, third, and fourth wives are married solely by the Imam under what can viewed as the spiritual law.
He said that to marry a second wife the first wife must give permission. To marry a third the first two wives both have to give their permission. I was interested to know if they lived all in the same home and he said not necessarily. Sometimes they live in various homes apart from each other.
I did not get any verses on this as neither of us had a Koran handy.
Your translations of these verses are slightly faulty allow me to post a more accurate version.
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4:3 Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one |
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4:129 Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire |
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If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice,two or three... |
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But hey... we know that this is not followed among many Muslims that take more than one wife. |
Rather off topic, but...
I'm not sure what you are implying. Mohammad according to most accurate reports did NOT have 18 wives. As for the age of Aisha it is disputed (could be 13 or 15). |
Good info Karbala, I have some questions:
1. What about in countries where polygamy is not accepted, is it justifiable to marry anyway?
2. If each woman is to be treated fairly then should they all live in the same house or have their own abodes?
3. Do you think you would ever enter into polygamy?
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1. What about in countries where polygamy is not accepted, is it justifiable to marry anyway? |
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2. If each woman is to be treated fairly then should they all live in the same house or have their own abodes? |
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3. Do you think you would ever enter into polygamy? |