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I have dated a younger girl, for 4 years we were together and it was great, but it ended real bad. To me there was always the understanding that we were not the same age, she was 5 years younger. Right now I am in another relationship where my girlfriend is 4 years younger.

For me it doesn't matter how I play it in my head, we are still ill suited in many ways because of our ages. In some ways we fit better because of this but I feel like ideally it would be better if we were the same age.

I just don't have the game or maturity to get a girl withing my age range. I am a little more immature than most my age. Socially I am undeveloped as well.

I think if I was a mentally and spiritually healthy and developed male I would have looked for a girl my age. However because of my own shortcomings I find it more fitting to be with a younger girl.

This is just my own thing and may not apply, I am just saying for the sake of the topic, many times the union is one of convenience other than actual healthy love.

What most people are concerned about I think is this union between the needy young girl with the immature male. This sort of thing happens a lot and usually doesn't last mutch longer past the courting stage or shortly after regular intercourse.

Basically are we talking about love or lust. Is this a relationship based on one filling the others needs in every aspect or just the immediate ones. If you are just there for each other in the most immediate sense and there is no lasting connection it may be unhealthy in the long run.

Yes you may agree that you will not be with one another forever but how will this separation take place when it ultimately has to. Break ups are hardly ever easy and if he is older understanding he may never be able to get a girl as good as you, he may not want to just let it go as easily as you think.

Edited: Oliron on 12th Aug, 2010 - 8:49am

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I am currently married a a wonderful girl who is seven year younger than I am. I have found that our relationship works very well for me and her. We have been married now for eight years and we are comfortable with each other. We both were previously married and it turned sour. I think that age does not matter if the two fit together nicely. Yeah love has a lot to do with it and over time the love should get deeper for one another. IF it does not then it was never love and just lust that people mistake for love.

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Comments: The older you get the less this matters. If you meet a 60 year old married to a 50 year old you won't think much of it but when that same couple was 25 and 15 at one time then you think oh no that can't happen. Age is only a modern issue. Centuries have gone by with older men taking younger brides all the time. I think this all changed with the emergence of the feminist movement.

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In centuries gone by, the older men were more like 35 and the girls as young as 12. That was stopped not by the feminist movement, but because it's akin to child abuse. But I do agree with your example, that a 10-year age difference really doesn't matter as we grow older.

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Comments: Why does feel natural to like older men though? When I was 14 I remember liking the guys that were like 10 years older than me. I'm 17 now and it still hasn't changed I just see boys my age so immature.

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While I totally understand where you are coming from I have to point out something.

In centuries gone by our life expectancies were mutch shorter. Often older wealthier males would take in an under aged girl to secure their bloodline and further expand their family. Not to mention (but I am mentioning) I am sure it was really great for the guy but not so good for the under aged girl. I am just saying how willing and coherent was this girl to the whole procedure?

From what I know of life and the world, this sort of union is more of an unhealthy one by todays standards.

Edited: Oliron on 5th Sep, 2010 - 1:33am

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Melissa, You feel that way because I have noticed that most girl mature a lot faster than most boys. Looking for a soul mate in someone older than yourself is natural I think as you want someone on the same plane of maturity as you. I know many guys who are as immature at 40 as they were at 15. I believe that is a main reason that you see a lot of younger ladies with older men.

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This may be harsh but I think you see a lot of younger "ladies" with older men today because they have no morals. They are after either the money or prestige of being with a more asserted powerful male.

In my experience this has little to do with love and more to do with being cool or better than their counterparts, again, unhealthy.

Many males do mature slower than females. Yet I have to say in this day in age it isn't about that. Girls / women are not looking for a nice guy who is going to take care of them. They are looking for a fling or supposed relationship that they can be all dramatic about when it fails.

Rather off topic, but...
Look at face book, all it is, is a bunch of fakes trying to put themselves out there as fun going, love loving, people.

They don't post the pictures of their three kids wondering were their mom is. They don't post the picture of themselves in the mourning throwing up in the toilet when they are supposed to be at work. They just show the fun pictures of them with their "significant others".

I recently remember seeing an old film were a lady was saying yes us women have freedom and rights. However we used to be better than men. Now we drink like them, sleep like them, smoke like them.

We as women had to take a step down from men to be equal with them. This was pretty mutch the statement she was making.

Many men are quite capable of being responsible at young ages. However if the women allow the men, nay expect the men, to be immature. Of course there is going to be a big gap.

Edited: Oliron on 5th Sep, 2010 - 2:14am