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Rushing RMs to be married?

Do you think that members tend to pressure return missionaries too much into marriage to the point that they end up marrying a person out of pressure to do so rather than love?

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I would assume the possibility exists, however I have yet to succome to such pressure.

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I would assume the possibility exists, however I have yet to succome to such pressure

I don't know how long have you finished your mission but wait until the years passed...lol ;D they will nag you and nag you and nag you :

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A lot of people nagged me about it after my mission. Most people do it because they want to have 'one up on you' (they may not have served  mission, but are married) so they want to pressure you. I think it is a big mistake since the RM feels like he is delaying or doing something bad by not marrying right away. As for me I did not listen to any of the 'hecklers'. I wanted to make an informed decision for myself. Afterall, it was not them going to marry the person I chose for time and all eternity. I was not married until six and half years after my mission and I am glad I waited, because I found the right person.

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Whew, this is a touchy subject for me. For me the biggest hecklers were my parents, but I sat down and talked with them, and now they've eased off a lot. Of course, I've only been home for about two years now, two years

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I think it used to be more common than now. When I finished my mission, I had my exit interview with my mission president and he said, Now I don't want to tell you to go home and get married within a month or 3 months or whatever. But just remember that there is an order to all things and marriage is the next important step you need to take. Don't put it off. I was home 3.5 years before I got hitched. I had heard of some missionaries that were given a time frame, but I don't think that is done anymore.

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Ramsus, you are right, and I would even date a lot, this way you can really see what you want - it is healthy and it puts you under no obligations until you decide who is the right one for you .

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My husband waited a very long time after his mission. By the time we met, I think most people had just given up on him. He did tell me that there was so much pressure to date and get serious fast. I am sure glad he didn't buy in to that. I hope he is too.