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Planning To Marry?

This site is rare in it's content, but provides some key questions that can be asked:

When choosing a partner, there are numerous issues which may lead to friction and conflict. Following the principle that prevention is better than cure, it seems wise to air these issues before a match is finalized. Some of the issues may appear trivial or mundane, but the stuff of everyday life is also the stuff of arguments! Other issues are more serious, and may be indicative of the potential for a stormy and abusive marriage. Each marriage will have its ups and downs, but settling some of these matters may avoid the emergence of major, insoluble problems and consequent heartbreak.

What makes him angry and how does he deal with his anger?

Does he blame everybody but himself?

Does he stop talking to the person involved?

Does he bear grudges ("I'll get him back one day!")

Has he ever physically or mentally abused anyone with whom he was angry?

Does he get angry when those who may be wiser disagree or suggest an alternative point of view?

Does he ever forgive those with whom he was angry?

How does he behave during a crisis?
Ref. https://www.jannah.org/sisters/queshusbands.html

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Marry Planning

Something that appears to be common on this site is that it is complete focused around him. Is this a cultural or religious issue? I am curious about this because there isn't talk about if he will listen to you the woman or if he will treat you right and listen to your dreams and other such questions that women ask of men in the US.

Planning To Marry? Islam Studies

Hey..a common misconception about women in Islam is that they are inferior, or must submit to the men. I would love to clear this up for any of you who feel this way. Please ask specific questions, or give me specific examples of what makes you think this. thanks.