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Could You Still Marry If...

Consider the following situation: you dated someone that you have loved for years and even engaged to be married then some days before the marriage you conduct a blood test and find out that your intended future mate is HIV positive from a dirty needle she was stuck with while in hospital a few months before. Do you still go ahead with the marriage or will you back off? Consider the following:

* Risks of you getting HIV after marriage
* Passing it to future children
* Your love for your spouse
* Breaking their heart if you broke up
* What if you knew the person was going to commit suicide if you left them?

If Marry You Could

When I married my wife, I was willing to die for her if it came to that. I still am willing to make that sacrifice if it was necessary, without even thinking about it. That kind of love sees beyond any disease they may have, especially when its not their fault. I would still marry her, but would likely not have children, maybe adopt instead. I couldnt leave the one I love to deal with something like this on her own. I would not, however, blame someone else or look down on someone else for leaving. Thats a hard pill to swallow. You know you wont have a long life together, and most assuredly not a normal life.

Could You Still Marry If... Reviews Consumer & Travel Family Culture

" Yucky. I guess what you're try to get me admit is that I would marry for the sakes of love. I think not! Asian culture to the rescue!
I would have to have details about his money, insurance, health care, 401K all these things. If he is rich, okay! If he is poor, rootless and having HIV, forget it!
If he would going to commit suicide if I left him, I would make him hate me! I have seen ''How to lose a guy in 10 days''. I would not break up - I would postpone marriage until he admit he hate me and not want to marry me any longer.
This is only logical if you want prosperous future and healthy children. Love is not such a great thing!
Americans always marry for love now a days. This is why there is 50% divroce rate! Love is a failing ventures, a dream for schoolgirls, something that happen when two people have been together a long long time under arranged marriage condition. "

- This is how I used to think. I wrote this down in school report as the question have been asked to me before. I still think it is logical, but then again, I am an schoolgirl, after all! I have silly dream, like most girl my ages. ^_^ These are just two opinion I put into one.
Now I would not care I do not think. If I really love him then I would be okay with this situation and adopt if I ever wanted children (which I do not!) Especially if he is handsome! ^.^

If Marry You Could

I am not sure. I mean, I think when you are head over heels in love, nothing else matters to you. However, this is a big risk to take with your life.

On the other hand, there are many good drugs now for people with HIV which in some cases actually seems to eliminate all signs of the disease so that is some reason for hope. This would seem to indicate that HIV found early in someone as this case indicates it would be, may mean it can safely be treated to a point where there wouldn't be a large danger to the spouse.

The inability to have natural children with this person would not even enter into the equation for me.

If Marry You Could

I would still marry her if that would have been the case then... I think to love should also mean that you are willing to sacrifice for him/her, should that ever call for, if that means you can not have children so be it, if you can't make the sacrifice (and you should be honest about this) maybe you just do not love him/her enough,

I knew a girl once, an ex-girlfriend of mine and a good friend too, who had HIV... now this isn't really important to the topic itself, but it helped me answering this question...


Does anyone of you know (or have known) someone close to you who has HIV , and if so how has that affected you ?

Could You Still Marry If...

I guess it depends no how much I loved the person. If it was my current partner I would. But definitely no children.

And somebody has now survived HIV so there is always hope!