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Detecting A Flirt?

Can you detect when someone is flirting with you or they are just being nice? If you can, then what do you look for and how do you know that is not their natural personality. As an example some people like to touch the other person a lot when they are talking, but the opposite sex may see this as flirting.

Flirt Detecting

That's a very good question! I have had females meet me for the first time and act very flirtatious (or at least, I thought so), and later on, I realized that they were not flirting at all. When it comes to flirting, I have no clue! I've also had female friends tell me they thought I was flirting with them, when in fact, I wasn't. I believe the concept of flirting has a lot to do with the behaviors that one is accustomed too. For example, for someone who comes from a family where touching and outwards shows of affection is not the norm, they may see someone touching them during conversation as flirting. My two cents, and non-expert view on the matter.

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I haven't realized this until my husband told me about it some years ago. I come from a country where we kiss and hug a LOT. As a matter of fact we greet people by kissing them and as Italian blood I have on me, we love to touch people while we talk, we are emotional people and we love to demonstrate it here.

Now regards to the question, I think it is very hard to know when someone is trying to be nice or flirting with you because of the simple fact that you may not know the personality of that particular person. Now, if it is a friend then you may have better chances to distinguish between both of them.

Flirt Detecting

If you ask my girlfriend she'll tell you I'm a major flirt. I always have been and I guess I always will be. Since I've got active in the church I have somewhat relaxed on the flirting. How do you detect a flirt, I would say it's in their eyes, how they look at you. Like LDS_forever said, there are cultures where touching and kissing is common. If you pay attention to them when they are with other people and how they are with you and you see that they act differently around you and touching and snuggling up to you and they don't with anyone else that is a sure sign that they are flirting with you.

Edited: malexander on 29th Apr, 2006 - 2:21pm

Flirt Detecting

I agree with Zelph's perspective on flirting. If you spend enough time around someone and pay attention to how they act to others and They act different around you then it would be obvious they are flirting. A couple of other sure fire ways to tell is that they will look at you with a glow or try to be around you all the time.