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Believe me, this Trini is taking that Belfast Bloke very seriously

As for wedding dates... if it happens sooner, I wouldn't complain, but I'd want to know that our families are at least ready to understand, if not accept the fact that we love each other and are committed to this relationship. Unfortunately, it seems that might take a while... that's why the patience and the far-off date!

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What your parents and his parents have said so far? Like I always say, once is meant to be, does not matter the challenges you all will always end up together.

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So far, my dad seems to be the one taking us most seriously My mom just seems to think it's a phase that will blow over long before he comes for a visit.

His family don't seem to be taking it too well, though... I think they're just being protective, trying to keep him from making a huge mistake with some crazy person he met on the internet!

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I have found that the former generation just does not understand the computer age. It is not about your aunt introducing you to someone, but you finding someone around the globe because you can. Why limit yourself to what the neighborhood has to offer when you have the world to look? The older folk just cannot comprehend that, BUT they will when they see each of you in person, then it will become 'real' finally to them.

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I agree with JB, also the opportunity to find a decent guy with strong moral values and a family man in Trinidad is near zero. Actually I have been pondering a lot recently, specially thinking about my young kids and their future...when I see the people around (specially young teenagers) I am terrified of the lack of opportunities they'll have to find someone with the same values. If it was hard for you to find someone and he is not even from Trinidad... can you imagine how it will be in 20 years? The thought alone is scary. I hope two things. 1) They do not end up marrying because of desperation and lack of opportunities. 2) I can raise them in a place where they will have more chances of finding someone with their same values. I do not think Trinidad is the place. Yet, I have no choice or control over it at the moment.

So If your fiance wants to live in Ireland, go for it! All the best,
LDS

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LDS, I'm not too sure about that. So long as there are parents willing to raise their children with morals and values (not exactly the norm anywhere in the world), there will be decent adults.

I think I had to look to the other end of the globe, because I was brought up in a vastly different way to my peers - no television. My parents insisted on "proper" English (still do) and my father taught us that "cussing is for people who haven't been educated enough to use vocabulary". Even 20 years ago, that was not normal.

What it meant though was that I learned to use my imagination, rather than have it spoon-fed to me by Sesame Street... for me, reading was fun - and I was reading the Bible, Shakespeare, Pride & Prejudice all before age 10.

It's no wonder then is it, that my perspective on life is very different to the average person my age (worldwide, not just here in Trinidad) who grew up in front of a tv set? Maybe that's why I question the media more?

Long and short of it is, belfastbloke is the first person I've met who just happened to have been raised very much the same way... he thinks outside of the box (pun intended) which to me is very rare! He's also been raised in a large family, much like mine, with Catholic parents, much like mine...

I think that because our parents were a rare breed, that is what made finding him take so very long... not necessarily the location, or culture. I'd hardly think that the average Irishman is much like him... in fact, from those I've met, I know they're not!

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What a wonderful point of view! Both of you seem to have thought things through so well that I think you will have a wonderful start. Of course, what happens after that is entirely up to the two of you.

Personally, I would have advised against the long engagement. I got married in April 1984, after a 3 month engagement, after a 6 week courtship! We are still married, and will be forever.

I think that as both sets of parents get to know how both of you share the same principles and values, especially the religious beliefs that you share, they will come to full acceptance.

Congratulations!

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Thank you, Nighthawk! Left up to my own devices with no family considerations, I'd marry him tomorrow without so much as blinking!

I think though that in this case, a long engagement is necessary, to give us time to meet each other's families, considering the extreme distance in locations. I am certain that once both of our families meet us as a couple, they will realize that this is not as crazy as it seems... but taking the time to allow them to adjust seems the right thing to do.