I think being offended and acting on that offense should be pointed out. Many times people seem to wait for any moment that they are offended so that they can explain about how they were offended in great detail and passion.
People are offended all the time but the mature thing to do it let it go. Many times I have been offended but just ignore it as if I did not even hear what was said. Or just move away from the situation that was offending me.
In short being offended, to me, is a state of mind. Once that state of mind takes place you can either react in a explosive or offended manner, or you can let it slide. In my experience letting it roll off your back is the best way to go.
Being offended is part of acting on it. I think that is the whole thing if you want to be offended then that in itself is an action. Maybe you're not retaliating or going for revenge but you are still letting what the other person did affect you.
It takes a lot of energy to maintain an attitude of being offended. Every time you see or hear the person's name it will cause many emotions to you. If you just forgive and forget it then you only have to do that one time and move forward but I know for many its easier said than done they want to relive being offended each day.
I feel that people are too easily offended these days. It seems like some just look for ways to be offended. I try to assume that someone is not trying to intentionally offend unless it is certain. I give people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I am a little naive. I just try to do my little part to bringing civility back to our society. If we all do our part we can make a difference.
Why can't people just get along rather than getting uptight because someone isn't saying or doing something you like? Its better to just move away from the person you don't like than be hanging around them. If you stick around then its your choice to be there.
Indeed, some people seem to thrive on being angered by others. On a fairly frequent basis, I've come to someone's defense and aid, only for that person to turn on me over some perceived insult.
"No ma'am, I'm not trying to impress you to get into your pants, just wanted to help deal with those foul mouthed jackanapes.
-I use ma'am as a term of respect, it implies nothing about your age, I swear.
-No, I'm just trying to explain my intent, not be condescending"
Edited: daishain on 27th Dec, 2016 - 12:35am