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Psychology of Mother

This Thread has been reserved to discuss the Psychology of Mother's being over you. In what ways has her 'tender' or 'harsh' ways affected you? Feel free to discuss remembrances of your mother here.

Mother Psychology

Like every daughter, there are certain things that I recognize in myself that came from my mother. Some of these things I'm not thrilled about. For example, my mom is a very "live in the moment" kind of person. In her life, she doesn't plan or prepare for the future, and never has had many long range goals, or if she did she didn't seem overly concerned with them. I'm a lot like her in this way, and I don't consider it a virtue. These things are small, however, compared to the many good things she taught me and the great love we share. As far as her harsh ways, she has none. She was the most lenient parent imaginable. I find myself being very much the same way with my own daughter. Luckily, it's worked out well in my case, because my daughter is a very good girl. I think that the older we get the better we appreciate our mother's tender virtues.

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Well. This might be a bit of an over-share, but everything I learned about my eating disorders, I learned from my mother. I'm in therapy about it now, but because of my parents' (especially my mother predominantly) belittling me in regards to my weight and always choosing the time to reprimand me about everything around meal times, I have a real aversion to food and use it like a weapon. It's something that I am dealing with now, but I have to deal with the emotional issues that surround my mother and my relationship. It's very difficult, but I see now how much of an impact that has. I had no idea, really that I was holding such emotional scarring.

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We probably shouldn't go here :/

However, I feel like it's mostly a success story, because I've overcome the majority of the awful parts and I do have at least a loving relationship with my mother now as long as I keep it all in perspective and don't expect too much. She's immature, she lacks much in the way of any kind of wisdom, she still can't manage her money at age 70 (trying to keep up with the Joneses), and she has no friends. I love her because she's my mother. She has a funny sense of humor, she loves her family very much and tries to show it (in her own way), and she can be very sweet at times. But she beat us kids senseless when we were little, all the way up into our teens, literally, and never taught us how to behave.

It's taken my entire lifetime for me to realize what a horrible person I was for many years: irresponsible to point of insanity, couldn't hold onto a job or money, moved around all over the place on any kind of whim, treated people who would have been great friends (or husbands) so badly that they dumped me, etc., so that I was in exactly the same boat she was. When my daughter was born a few years ago, I had a wakeup call and changed my life around pretty much just in the knick of time to help her grow up with something like traditional values. And so far that's working.

Then, a couple of years ago, I thought having my parents move in with us would be a great idea (what was I thinking?). It's turned out to be as bad as I should have anticipated (and my sisters warned me), and a really bad influence on my daughter. There have been some advantages, but for the most part it's just not a good thing.

Mother Psychology

My mother was a good mother. I think she had a profound effect on my personality in that she is very strong willed, and I have that same trait. Its also the reason we argue allot though as well. Its the reason she can't let it go that I won't return to church. Its the reason she can't just let me raise my kids the way I want. But either way, its what makes her such a good mother. Because she is also very loving and passionate about her family, and that extends to her grand children too. She is always proud of me and my kids and the life I have carved out for myself.

Psychology Of Mother

My mother attempted to control everything I did and said every hour of every day as far back as I can remember. She also attempted to force-feed me her holy roller religion which taught the ,"Spare the rod and spoil the child." idea. I was never in trouble with the law, or the neighbors, or the teachers at school, but I was perpetually in trouble with her. If I wasn't switched, beat, slapped, or hit with whatever was at hand, I was being threatened.

This had the effect of making me believe I couldn't make her happy, so at a very young age I stopped trying. I got poor grades in school, had very few friends, and grew up with a very negative attitude.

She believed that I should be punished until I cried, or she hadn't done her job. Then one day at the age of 17 she was beating on me and the anger had built up in me until I wanted to scream at her, not cry. I just stood there looking down at her. She finally stopped and said, "Well, I guess you're just too big to spank." I thought, "My God! Why didn't I try that sooner?"

The effect this had on my life can never be measured. I have tried, with the loving patience of my wife, to overcome the effects, but occasionally my anger, or negative attitude shows through. I'm 69 years old and I'll live with my mothers control the rest of my life.

Those of you that have children remember that everything you do is "normal" to that child. They grow up without even realizing the world you "created" for them to grow up in might not necessarily be the best way to live their life.

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I have had to overcome severe depression and very low self-esteem issues because of the psychological effects of my mother. All she has ever done my entire life is indulge me in how I was never good enough, no matter what I did. She would brag to her friends about how I was going to college, or my grades in secondary school, or all my extra-curricular activites, but would do nothing by harp me to my face. She used my achievements as an excuse to brag to her friends as if she had something to do with it.

When I was around her, she also had this way of making me a more agitated person. I was lashing out at my fiance because she just had such a negative impact on me. Luckily, now that I have nothing to do with her, I've become a much happier person.

My future mother-in-law is absolutely wonderful, on the flip side. The past five years, she has been more of a mother to me than my biological mother. She inspires me. She has not had an easy life at all, and she is truly a role model of overcoming difficulties and bad situations and making a better life for oneself. She has made me feel good about myself and she has made me feel taken care of, which is a feeling I hadn't ever felt from a parental figure before.

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There are many of us that were not treated well. You and I are at least two lucky ones to find my wife and your mother-in-law and feel better about ourselves.

I can see the results of a wonderful mother in my wife's children. They are two of the most patient human beings on the face of this earth with their children. I have no doubt they learned that from my wife, their Mom.

If I believed in re-incarnation I would ask for parents like them next time.

Hug your mother-in-law and tell her how special she is. Thanks for the reply. Some how I don't feel so alone when I hear of others that lived through the pain of growing up like we did.