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Men in T&T have a choice of 'deputies' so why confuse the issue with extra "wives".
It is not that important within the societal realm so nothing to push. I will agree that most educated Trini women who are Muslim, tend to be bound to the perception and apearance of materialism. with all its concommitant devices of jealousy where "I am the only wife and that is it", which is in accordance with the societal direction.
The more "traditional" ( a loaded term here so I had beetr watch myself) Muslim woman will see the benefit of extra wives, pursue her goals, share the housework and when she had had enough, go her own way! This is not for many women.

What has love to do with it?
Parents in T&T (usually in the country) used to marry off sons and daughters to strangers and the marriage used to last a long time. Now everything is love and people loving up daily and they cannot find the right person. Modernity and love has created its own demons and I am not saying one is better than the other. I am saying the better one is the one you want to become a part of.
Duty, responsibility, education of the children was far worth the goals to be lauded as opposed to the present day divirce, get a new wife and the children suffering!

One man's meat is another man's poison!

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lordryoko:

OK, I understand now.

I guess so. I don't like the term homophobia since much of the time people who don't like gays don't necessarily fear them.

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In Venezuela many man have more woman not for marriage but for relationship. They have wife and women they visit after work. I sure they happy to have more wife if they could.

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Man Venezuela sounds like Trinidad in Spanish. Same thing same thing but I believe this is because of a cultural or traditional settings. When men have other women they are considered 'macho' you know real men. If women have other men (heck just look at another man) and they are considered whores/prostitutes or being nymphomaniac. So you may say that men are encouraged to have other women.

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I agree with trinichick on the topic of plural marriages in Islam in Trinidad and Tobago. I am also of the opinion that educated muslim women ARE against being in a situation where they are just one of a number of wives,belonging to only one husband. In my anthropology of the people's class at UWI, this question of plural marriages came up, the lecturer asked, "why do you think there is plural marriage in this religion?"no one answered except all of the Muslim women in the class (which is only about 2). They seemed moved to answer.Their answers shockingly revealed to me and many in the class, that they are totally against plural marriage, they see that as bringing themselves down, they aspire for what they termed a "better life situation" and were very keen on education, obtaining a masters, getting a great job and practicing monogamy.

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Benchoy, interesting. But maybe that's the opinion of only 2 women and not necessarily represent the rest of the women in Islam?

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quite right and may be true, respect to those muslim women who chose otherwise.
however that was just my simple observation, showing that we were shocked as a class, that their was such open rebellion to, and choice in the matter of plural marriages, by those in the faith themselves....who knows how many more there are who feel the same, and in addition to that, those who feel the same and say nothing. its not as clear cut as one would have thought, like , is it then a choice in islam...or is it then a law?

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Comments: I just happened to be looking on the internet to see what was said about Debates on Same-sex marriages and saw this come up.[..]

IF, according to the late Dr Eric Williams, former Prime Minister of T&T, in our country, [every creed and race find an equal place], then the thousands in our population who are deeply in love with someone of their same sex and wish to be married, should be able to do so and not have to fear being harmed for how they feel inside.

If we all remember that we all would like to know we are free to do what we want in our bedrooms and to love whom we can love and have them feel free to love us back, there would be no need for all this yada / discussion and hypocritical talk.