Do you know of anyone who might be avoiding the dating scene due to their disabilty? Or maybe they are avoiding possible dates, because the other person has a disability they cannot handle. I know for a long time I was convinced that the bad luck I was having with men was because of my disability. Am I so terrible for thinking poorly because of my epilepsy and my weakness? Is there something wrong with me or am I just overly paranoid?
That's a very good question, and one that brings to mind a friend who is deaf and has not dated in many, many years. She is an attractive woman, with a large family - her kids are all grown and married, so there aren't any little ones at home. Very sweet-natured woman, and active in her community and church. I wonder if she is using the disability, or if others perceive it as too great a hurdle? I know her kids (and I) encourage her to get out more and "mingle" but she's a bit reluctant.
On the other hand, I've been out there in the dating scene, and there are a lot of callow, shallow folks, male and female, who don't seem to have a lot of compassion for those with disabilities.
So maybe the answer is both: Some may use their disability as a "shield" to fend off attraction, and some may use blinders to not see those with disabilities as potential mates.
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Am I so terrible for thinking poorly because of my epilepsy and my weakness? Is there something wrong with me or am I just overly paranoid? |