Come now, this isn't anything new is it? Truly, men have known that women "give it up" allot easier when romanced. But the really tough part is that women gave us that key years ago! They told us they like to be romanced and told us exactly what to say to make them feel romanced! Women want to be seduced like men do, but in a different way. In my opinion, women want to be romanced because they like be sought after, it makes them feel important and pretty and not so easy to get. Romance truly is the art of seducing a woman in my opinion.
I'm aware this will sound really old-fashioned... but don't you think it also has something to do with the intention of the romancer?
I'd more likely call Hallmark-style romance 'seduction', when the man is playing along with the hopes of getting the woman into his bed. If a woman is willing to look for it though, there are true romantic men out there, who want more than that.
Here's where I get to gloat a bit - I found one!
Ladys, what is the purpose of men and women getting together at all? Its not love, its procreation, which equals sex, whether with someone you grow to love or not. Men do not romance just to romance unless they are already in love with you. I go so far as to say that if they can't make the commitment to marriage, they aren't romancing you for romance sake.
Now, I have been married for nearly ten years, so I have a good idea why men do this. Don't ask your man if he did it, the answer will ALWAYS be no. No man romances someone he hasn't given his heart to for any other reason than to get her attention soley focused on him, being very happy with him. Romance does this, and no, women can't usually tell its happening. In fact, I can tell you from experience with my wife that even after marriage for ten years, you don't know all our tricks in getting what we desire!
I have to agree with you there, Konq, and well-said. After three marriages and many "in-between" relationships, I can attest to the fact that romance serves one purpose and one purpose only: to focus that woman's attention on that one man.
The only thing I disagree with your statement is that women don't know that it's happening. Sorry, but most women aren't that stupid, and generally want the same thing the man does, only in a prettier package.
I don't believe in "platonic" romance - for what other purpose does a man romance a woman except to find a mate? It's not to be a celibate pair, but an intimate pair.
And I say "Right on!" and thank goodness for romance and the art of seduction! Otherwise, the whole mating ritual would be rather dull and mechanical.
In my opinion, of course.
Roz
FarSeer
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romance serves one purpose and one purpose only: to focus that woman's attention on that one man . . . for what other purpose does a man romance a woman except to find a mate? It's not to be a celibate pair, but an intimate pair |
Yes, your correct, but for guys, the thrill of the chase and the conquest go hand in hand. I still like it when my wife plays hard to get, but there is still the goal of making her mine in the end. Romance really is about the ultimate goal and not about the chase. In fact, the chase is just fore play to the goal. Like the plays of a football game. Exciting plays happen and awesome hits occur, but none of it makes a lick of difference if no points are score!
Only a guy can accurately equate a football game to romance!