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The Stress Of Interracial Relationships

Back in my earlier days. I was involved in two interracial relationships which involved white and hispanic. Dating outside my race was definitely an experience I'll never forget. Interracial relationships can be very stressful , especially when your living in the south. That is part of the reason why the relationships never last.When I dated a white female I would get the crazy looks from whites and blacks while out in public. The whites would call her nigger lover and the blacks would call me a sell out. Or when we go out to a restuarant together. The waitress would walk by the table as if we were invisible. Then you will have someone from either sides of the family that are racist. So their was always tension in the air during family gatherings. But I notice when I dated the hispanic (Puerto Rican) female, I did not have all these problems. I guess because we are both minorities and it's no big deal. I guess this is why some parent's preach to stick to your own kind. Not that they are racist. But because society is ust not ready to accept interracial relationships or marriages. My parents did not have a problem with me dating outside my race. But they were quick to ask me what do the girl's parents think of her dating me. That was the only thing that mattered to my parents. But I'm starting to see an increase of interracial marriages now. You have a few celebrity interracial marriages out there. Robert Deniro , Cuba Gooding Jr. , Dianna Ross , Sidney Poitier , Prince , and Quincy jones. Then you have Tiger Woods and Serena Williams involved in interracial relationships.

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While I was never involved in interracial relationships, my wife is from Britain, while I am from the western US. We share the same religion, but our cultures are very different. There certainly are stresses involved just in these differences.

While I lived in Mississippi, one of my closest friends was a black man who worked in the same area as me. His wife was a white English woman. He explained to us how they didn't dare drive to his home (in Texas) together. Especially in Mississippi and Louisianna, they would literally be in danger if they were in a car together. In Biloxi and Gulfport, because of the overwhelming military presence, they were comfortable and felt safe.

Another man I knew when living in Georgia was married to an Hispanic woman. He once told me about the time his wife applied to a local grocery store for a clerk job. Although they were advertising the position, they told her that there were no positions available. He went in about an hour later and applied for the same job, and was offered a job starting immediately.

He didn't indicate that there was significant problems with the fact that they had an interracial marriage, but that his wife still experienced some discrimination. (In Macon, which is a very military area as well.)

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I am West Indian (of Indian descent) and married to a white female. When we lived in Florida, where there are a lot of different people, it was not a big deal. However, when we moved to Minnesota where there are predominantly whites and a midwestern mindset, we were given funny looks when in public together. My family was also very opposed to us being together, mostly because of our differences in race and culture. However, her family was very open to me and has treated me with respect and equality for the entire time we have been together. I guess it all depends on the individual families and how they were raised.
I have always told my daughter, who by the way looks mostly white, to treat everyone the same, and I think she has learned tolerance by seeing the way we live together. When my daughter is old enough to bring someone home, I hope that my experiences can help me look beyond the color their skin, or their accent and see the real person inside.

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Being a biracial child has to be rough on a child. I remember being in middle school. The kids would pick on biracial kids and call them muts or say that they were confused. It's terrible how kids can be so evil.

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Chya I notice a lot of cultural differences a lot. I usually don't even go out with girls my own race. I have a lot of Asian or sometimes black girls, and there are a lot of differences and things they see different. Its all good though, thanks to love and whatnot.

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My blood family is Caucasian. My step-dad is African-American. Mom and Floyd have been together over 20 years. They met while working for the federal government just outside Washington, D.C. My sister and I were only in our early teens when they met and Mom kept Floyd a secret for quite a while. Our bioligical father was somewhat of a racist, and she was afraid that Em and I wouldn't accept Floyd for whatever reason.

Time went by and they made their relationship public knowlege. Em and I were thrilled. We all formed strong bonds rather quickly. Our friends and neighbors appeared to be tolerant and accepting as well. However, when I would arrive home from school I would occasionally find KKK literature on our doorstep. I never told Mom about this until years later. Some bigoted peers did call me a "nigger lover". I told them straight up that Floyd was a better father to me than the white piece of [crap] that sired me.

Once Mom and Floyd decided to commit to one another, Mom had her tubes tied. They were afraid of the problems that might arise if they were to have a mulatto child. I don't blame them- people can be so cruel. But mulatto children are usually so beautiful... **sigh**

We all moved down to Florida in July of '84. Things are so much better down here. Up north they would sometimes get denied service in restaraunts, or get horrible service in many cases. There's none of that nonsense in our part of Florida, however there are still plenty of unenlightened people, not only down here, but everywhere.

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I have dated Latino and Asian and African-American men. It does seem that interracial relationships are becoming more common, but I'm sure there will always be parts of the world/people who are intolerant of anything "outside the box."

Two of my sisters married Latino men - one Nicaraguan, the other a mix of Arab and Mexican. The one sister who married the Nicaraguan spoke fluent Spanish, which came in quite handy in East L.A. One day while waiting for the bus, two Mexican ladies joined my sister and her 1-yr-old son on the bench. Speaking in Spanish, one lady said to the other, "That baby has a Mexican father," and they laughed. My sister replied very politely, in Spanish of course, "His father is not Mexican, he's Nicaraguan." I love that story

One of my uncles has had a very turbulent, on-again/off-again relationship with a beautiful African-American lady who is 25 years his junior. They finally broke up for good a couple of years ago -- very sad. She's an awesome woman.

Roz

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I was involved with an Afro-Chinese guy for 2.5 years and no one had a problem with it..since he looked more Chinese than anything else.

But last year, I was involved with a guy whos dad is of African descent and mom is Caucasian. He took after his dad more than his mum. My family and friends were 100% accepting, but surpisingly enough, it was everyone else...people on the street and on airplanes..who had a problem! When we held hands, people would blatantly stare at us. (for those of you who don't know, in Trinidad, the biggest "rift" between races is Afro-Trinidadians and Indo-Trinidadians). We both laughed it off though, because its so ridiculous that in this day and age, people are still so close-minded.