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HOW TO RAISE A COMPASSIONATE CHILD
While rummaging through an old box, my daughter, Claire, came across the stuffed bear I'd had when I was her age, a deeply loved creature named Teddy. "How come Teddy has no fur?" she asked. "Why doesn't she have eyes?" I explained that my cousin's dog had chewed up Teddy when I was a kid. She was aghast.
REf. https://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/parenting/0...sion/index.html
This is an excellent article, I made sure to bookmarked it in order to put in practice some of these things with Felipe, because he has a very poor impulse control, he tends to laugh when his brother is crying (he finds that amusing)
I will try some of the things the article suggested. Some parents (Dads, specially) think they cannot be sweet with their boys because they are "boys", that's old school for me, I believe more sweet you are to your kid, more compassionate and caring they become. The article also mentions when the kid cries, the reaction we have as parents will determine how compassionate they will be, if we tell them to stop crying instead of giving them a hug and console them, then they will not become compassionate because they will deal with similar situations in the same way. This applies specially for fathers, mothers have a natural tendency of being sensible about these things.
The same applies with the tone of the voice you use, you can't pretend to talk to your kid roughly most of the time and pretend him not to do the same to others. It's really all about us, parents.
I'll try to use more sweetness on my interactions with him, soft spoken and teaching him more about being caring about his little brother. *smile* Edited: LDS_forever on 4th Jan, 2007 - 12:39pm
This is a fantastic article with so many great suggestions that it's hard to focus in on one or two. I will say that for the older child, parents who trash talk others don't seem to realize the effect this has on their adolescent. It's an easy thing to get carried away with complaining about other people, and I've done it myself and have thought I was just letting off steam. However, a teenager will not be able to see some not so obvious reasons people act the way they do. It is up to us to point these out and help the child look at things from the offending persons point of view.