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I've recently had first hand experience with this topic:

My son finished his high school years, was not interested in furthering his education in an academic sense, and proudly proclaimed that he was going to take a year off.

I asked him, "A year off what?"

"Just a year off", he replied... which said to me that he had no plans or aspirations. I started calling him Eric Foreman (from "That 70's Show").

Background to this story: His Mother and I separated when he was 2 years old. We remained friendly and I was given unrestricted access to my son, so he wasn't deprived of either parent. She married another bloke (a banker... who provided for them admirably), then their relationship turned to custard. I had long ago moved to the big city, many miles from them.

In the meantime, I became successful in my own right, and then I heard of his plans to "take a year off".

"Bollocks to that", I said, and made him move in with me.

He's going to turn 20 this year, and I'm constantly exasperated at his level of maturity... or non-maturity. He often infuriates me with his blase attitude to life, but before I find cause to get angry I have to remind myself what I was like at his age.

Pretty much the same. When you're 19-going-on-20, the world is still your oyster, dreams are still attainable, and options are real.

Age has it's merits, but youth has it's wonder. I get exasperated with him at times, but at other times I have to stop and concede... he's still young and the world is, indeed, his oyster. I shouldn't push my aged problems on him.... mortgages, failing health, blah blah blah.

Let them live their world of possibilities while they still have room to dream.

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It also seems that young adults these days tend to take longer to mature, I think there are so many things so freely accessible for them that their teens years seem to expand as time passes.

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I have to agree with that. My middle son thinks he can take six years to go thru 4 years of high school and noone will really care. He presently has no aspirations to further his education besides going to beauty school to learn to cut hair. He is too occupied with his computer and cell phone texting to do any of his school work. He really does think that time will stop for him so he has plenty of time to do everything.

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I agree, LDS_Forever, that kids today are taking longer to mature. I believe part of the reason is that kids no longer have any responsibilities. Farm kids who have to work regular chores mature far faster than kids who live in cities with nothing to do but play. Another reason, in my opinion, is television. The inane, pointless shows designed for kids emphasize.... nothing. All the kids do on these shows is hang out, cause trouble, and then are forgiven by "parents" who are portrayed as completely witless, and other clueless adults. Life has become too easy for kids to understand responsibility that leads to maturity.

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I think it may have to do with how society of late has been getting more digitally active. You have kids now that do not have to do anything but push a few buttons and they get something. If they ever invent a seat that does everything we will all become hermits.

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KNtoran, yes but who gives them all these "toys"? Parents! I think sometimes they overdo it. Kids mature by learning to be responsible. It gets on my nerves when I see teens complaining when they do not have the latest of phones or games as it is the responsibility or job of the parents to provide all those things for them! Crazy!

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Yes we do provide them some of the things that help them be lazy. We also try to make their lives easier than we had it. Society has been doing this for so long it is almost second nature to us. SO Yes we are partly responsible for them. We also are responsible for teaching them to be self reliant. I think many people are not doing a good job there.

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Yes LDS_forever you are absolutely correct us parent have a huge influence on how quick a child matures. I do concede some will take longer than others even under the same rules and guidance.

Dianc you hit the nail on the head how or more so why should some one mature and take responsibilities on when parents do it for then. So yes Chores that must be done so that you can survive season ones way of thinking much quicker then taking out the garbage.

My son is 10 and knows we expect him this some to make some of his own money...he is relishing the opportunity go figure. He will be setting up his own account and at then end he has to hand us a balance sheet that shows he saved at least 20 or 30% of his earning. This in turn will be placed in a 8 year investment in his name. That was his request so that he can buy a new computer when he leaves home.

I show him my pay stubs and bills so he understand in his own level how we manage to won a house. Many of his friends have single parents and rent. He know knows why.

We must as parent s expose our children bit by bit to the reality to them around them or yes you will have a 40 year old in your home. I retire at 57 and plan on chasing my wife around the house not pampering a 40 year old tweeny.