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Ending A Relationship

One of the most difficult things to do is to end a relationship, especially when that relationship has been carefully grown over a period of time. This thread is not about the reasons to end it (any serious reason could be the 'excuse') the focus is HOW to do it.

Here is one web site's viewpoint:

It's an old saying but it is nonetheless very true, there is no easy way to end a meaningful relationship. However, there are things that you can do in order to minimise the pain and disruption that this will cause both to you and your partner.

Once you have decided for certain to end the relationship, do not wait until you are drunk or in a really bad mood to do it. This usually ends in a lot of trouble, pain and heartache. Most people have been down this road and know the terrible traumas that can happen.
Ref. https://easyweb.easynet.co.uk/simplepsych/ending.html

Relationship Ending

It's never easy to end up a relationship. No matter what is being said, somebody will end up hurt. But the person needs to be considerate about the other person's feelings and express how they feel in a very calm and sincere way.

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Unless it is in the heat of the moment, I try to take the blame for the failure of the relationship on me when explaining that it isn't working. I figure, if I am going to be the one to end it, there is no need to further the pain by pointing out the faults of the other person involved. Trouble is, sometimes the other person won't leave it at that and then you have no alternative but be firm in your decision and sometimes you will then be forced to get a little "tough."

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My son has a bad tendency to end his relationships with girlfriends by making himself into a monster. He suddenly develops mood swings, is really irritable, causes fights for no reason, when what he should do is face the fact that he's done with the relationship and discuss it with the girlfriend. In the meantime, the poor girl feels like it's all her fault and either gets really clingy or gets depressed (or both) -- which makes it all worse! Bad situation.

It's been so long since I've been in a relationship, and since I've changed so much, I couldn't say if I have a pattern or not....

Roz

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My ex did this towards the end of our marriage. It is an attempt to get the other person to decide to end the relationship. You could call it cowardice, but it also could just be that the person who has decided the relationship is over just doesn't want to hurt the other person. I agree it isn't the proper way to handle things, but I think it does to some extent show your son has a big heart...although I refuse to say such a thing about my ex...I choose to consider him a coward.

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Yep, it's just his way of trying to end it by having *her* leave and think that he's a jerk after all... I've tried to explain to him that it doesn't work with the ones who are sweet and big-hearted themselves! They want to try to "fix" it and/or take all the blame on their own heads. I think it's cowardly, personally, and what-do-you-call-it..? passive aggressive?

Sometimes, you just have to say goodbye.
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Roz

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I once tried to break up with, oddly enough, my present wife, and it did not go well at all. It was when we were dating, and I was very young and stupid. I got scared when our relationship started getting serious and decided that I should end things. Anyway, I took her to dinner and a movie, then we went to the parking lot of a grocery store not to far from where she lived, and of all places, I tried to break it off with her in the car. Well, she got livid, because she was totally blindsided, and stormed out of the car and started walking home. Here I was driving up and down the road, trying to get her back in the car, knowing that if she made it home it was over. Well, long story short, she did make it home, and we were 'on a break' for a while, but then we got back together and have been together ever since.

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Well, my current boyfriend and I have been together two years. I believe in that time frame, we've broken up two times; each of us having our own turn. There never is a right or good way to end a relationship, but one way never to do it is through email. It seemed like the best way for me at the time to say it, but it made me a coward that I couldn't face him to do it. I'm just glad he and I could work out our differences and come back together.