Diplomatic or Factual
In the following situations do you find your words come out more Diplomatic or Factual?
1. Speaking with your spouse / partner
2. A close friend
3. Your boss
4. Workplace associates
5. Your parents
6. Someone that you know is sensitive
7. General conversation
Good thread, JB! Let's see...
1. Both. In some situations diplomatic and others factual. The thing is no matter how much I may try to be diplomatic, it always sound factual! That's my personality and it's on my nature, not really "intended" that way.
2. Factual. Specially because close friends tend to confide things to you and ask you what you think so if I see they are messing up, I go straight to the point without anesthesia. I am extremely straightforward, to the point a lady from my Church said I am "scary".
3. Factual and because of it, I had a pretty good relationship with all of them. Interesting enough, my co-workers who tried to keep quiet on an issue or tried to be diplomatic were not respected the same way and most of the time, were taken advantage of.
4. Neither. I usually try to keep to myself. Just a cordial greeting and an occasional conversation but nothing that will require be one or the other.
6. If I know someone is sensitive, I try to stay away as much as possible because no matter what you say or how you say it, they will be offended anyways so I rather not to keep in touch with people like that.
7. Factual. It does not matter to me who is present and who is not and is not a matter of being inconsiderate. I do not sugar-coat when I speak, I say it just like it is without being rude, although a lot of people interpret it as you are cold, cruel, others that you are self-righteous, prideful when in fact you are just sharing your view without the smiles and the usual "I-am-sorry" tone.
For me it is not difficult to analyze:
1. Most times factual
2. Factual
3. Factual
4. Factual
5. Factual
6. Factual
7. Factual
Get my drift? Yep, if you are going to converse with me you will not expect any kind of underhanded talk - I come straight out and would rather other people do so as well. Most people should pick that up from my Threads here.
I am and always have been a diplomat. Even when I was little my mom called me her little diplomat. I don't consider this a virtue but cowardice because I am afraid of confrontation. I been able to overcome this and speak my own mind with those I love or feel close to.
1. Speaking with your spouse / partner - Both
2. A close friend - Both
3. Your boss - Diplomatic
4. Workplace associates - Diplomatic
5. Your parents - Both
6. Someone that you know is sensitive - Diplomatic
7. General conversation - Both