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Bullying Gone To Far?

Last week a boy that I know, he has learning disabilities and other health problems went missing. That happened on thursday of last week, he didnt get found till friday around noon ( thank god hes alright) but he had hyptheria. Surpringsly enough when asked what had happened, he said that he was trying to get away from bullies. Now I know you guys dont know who Jamie is so its hard to relate to it. But even at the coast a couple weeks ago that 13 year old got beaten to death. Do you think bullying is going to far? Do you think it can be helped and prevented in the future or is it a loss cause.

Far To Bullying

Yes, I don't know who Jamie is but based in your description is a person with special needs who needs a lot of help and need to be loved. I cannot understand how some people can be so cruel, heartless of bullying a disable person! I tell you Xtra, it makes me soooo mad that if I ever witness something like that I would probably end up in jail trying to beat up those guys!!!!!

First of all, let me tell you is hard for me to understand bullying at school...since the popularity thing is not something that exists in my country, bullying is something NOT very common, yes, the kids will make fun of other kids but they will make a couple of jokes and leave it there and if they see the kid is affected then they probably will go and say something like 'Hey, I was just kidding' or things like that. Of course, I'm talking about in High-school. In Primary Schools kids tend to be more cruel and agressive in my opinion, based on experience.
Yes, bullying is going too far! kids beating kids to death? goshhh...is crazy!!!! It has a lot to do with their homes and how they have been raised, signs of violence they show that nobody can see it, spoilt rotten kids that have no productive activities after school...there are so many reasons! and the cultural background in all this have a lot to do with it. I remember the case of this girl that a lot of girls used to bullying to, she committed suicide after a long period of depression and because of FEAR that she could get killed because of some threats some girls did to her. The mother of the victim took all the girls into court (of course, since they were minors she was suing the parents) but really what she was looking for was an apology, a sign of what they did was wrong....only one girl with tears on her eyes apologied to her saying she was sorry for her daughter's death but the other 3 girls were LAUGHING at her face after the court session and they even were planning going to a party!.
We are talking about the death of a human being!!! *shaking head*
Parents needs to raise children who respect other individuals, no matter how they look. Is so difficult for me to understand this because I always thought that compassion is something 'natural' of the human being. I'm far from perfect but since I was very small, I always felt the need to be friends with those who were left out or they were different. But then I learnt that compassion is LEARNT not inherite.
How bullying could be prevented?. Starting at the homes, parents should respect their children first in order to earn respect and they should be an example of what they preach. Also parents of children who have some kind of disability problem or they have a weak personality should pay more attention to their children, listen to them more, don't dismess them saying 'Oh, this is high-school, this is how it it'. It doesn't help them, what it would help them is to build a new personality, a self-confident one that will not allow or tolerate from nobody to be treated bad but often parents ignore this whole issue because they think is a 'kid's thing' when in reality their own child could be in danger of being killed or killing himself.

Bullying Gone To Far? Health & Special Psychology

I think the moment any type of bullying happens, it has already gone too far. Nobody should be bullied or made fun of for anything. People have made irrational decisions that have been harmful to themselves as well as other people because of being bullied. Nobody should grow up hating themself because a materialistic society deems them unworthy.

The diversity in our world is a beautiful thing, and that diversity doesn't always necessarily have to center around a certain race. Everybody comes in different shapes, sizes, and personalities.

I think one reason kids get bullied is because of the other person's own issues with self esteem. Most times people try to build themself up by shoving somebody else to the ground. Everybody is always trying to be the top star, and if a person's priorities fall more on themself than the people around them, they tend to resort to degrading somebody else.

Until we live in a society that values everybody for their differences rather than some phony perfection, people will be bullied. People's lives will be made miserable because they're different. I think the world would not be nearly as beautiful if everybody were the same. Sadly, there won't be a stop to it until the Lord returns.

Far To Bullying

I believe is more then that.. as LDS_forever said there are places where people are the same but this bullying doesn' t not happened. It was also the case in my school. There were people that make a lot of fun of other kids but never went till physical abuse. There was also some fighting involved there but it usually went on between alfa males, hitting a weaker one was not consider a gesture of manhood. So there it was...some kids were left outside some circes but they were very seldom abuse and not because the other were self aware about the damage they could have done but because it never become cool to hit weaker people.

I do not know if I made myself understood but may be is another way more natural and simple then expect society to values everybody for their differences

Far To Bullying

But still bullying and abuse. Sometimes it is even worst when someone is making fun of you constantly because the damage is psychological. Bullying is more serious than we think and it is not to school only, it is even in work places!.

Edited: LDS_forever on 13th Feb, 2005 - 10:20pm

Bullying Gone To Far?

I was bullied in school as a child myself. I hate the fact that the schools allow it more and more while portraying that they are against it. There was a specific incident that I can remember in which a teacher saw me being hit, I had my hands up to defend, not fight, and we both got sent to the principles office and suspended. My parents where furious and I was destroyed inside for being punished for defending myself while being attacked.

The problem is that parents and teachers are either too dense to see, scared, or don't care enough to crack down on the bullies. Another thing that bothers me, is when I finally started speaking out against it, the teachers association I spoke before basically got tired of hearing my plight and that made them come down on me! Since when is it wrong for the person to speak up about what is being done to them. I never asked for the treatment I got, and I still resent the teachers who ignored me to this day.

Bullying To Far

When I was in 4th grade, I was the smallest kid in my class. My birthday is in September, so I was actually almost a half a year younger than most of the kids. My mother and father had always told me that if some kid picks on you..."you just knock their block off". Being a good kid, I listened. Well one day, some 6th graders started picking on my friend and I. They started hitting him first and then I yelled for him to stop. The 3 of them asked me "what was I going to do about it" and started coming towards me. We had been playing hockey, so I held my stick up. They laughed and kept coming. I closed my eyes and swung as hard as I could. I still remember that feeling to this day...just like in the fall when you are playing baseball and dont grab the bat hard enough and the bat stings in your hand after you hit the ball. SAME FEELING HERE. I opened my eyes and all I saw was blood (broke his nose). I went running to the teacher and kept appologizing the whole way...I thought I had nearly killed him (what did I know...I was only in 4th grade). Those guys got in trouble for beating on my friend and I got detention for hitting a bully with a hockey stick. I have always tried to figure out if I deserved the detention...but I can say that I did not get picked on anymore!

Vincenzo

Bullying To Far Psychology Special & Health

I believe this is true to a point. Perhaps the instigator has these issues, but often the kid ends up bullied by a group because most kids are just followers. So, the first person starts it, but the others all join in.

I was a bully at times in grade school to one girl in particular. Never physical, but definately I was cruel (I know, some of you can hardly believe it ). I definately had issues with self-esteem. By the time I got to high school though, I had grown out of this behavior. In fact, the girl I used to bully became one of my best friends.

Unfortunately, the teachers had no choice but to discipline you as well. Fair or not, they cannot allow any student to strike another for any reason. Hopefully your parents were understanding. As far as not being picked on any longer, that is exactly what bullies look for, if you defend yourself, they will leave you alone. They only want to pick on people who are easy targets.