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So after so long I am finally talking to him again and you have no idea how happy I am to talk to him again. I know some of you on here do not like him although some of you also agree that he does deserve another chance. Every one can change and become better. It all depends on who they are around and if they want to change. Given the chance I'm sure he could be a really great guy with pets and kids. I have seen him around both and he does great. I know that was 6 years ago but still. Yes I am aware that he could have changed but from talking to him inside he is still the man I love. He has meant the world to me for a very long time. I am really sure that he would not do something like that. Even if I didn't love him I still don't see him doing what he is being accused of at all.

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So you're happy and the baby that was abused and will not have a life anymore? I looked at the start of this post and saw what the investigation said:

He treated that baby like a football!

I couldn't agree more.

Well how can you like anyone that does that? If that were you being beat up like that would you like it?

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I have been treated like that! I have had alot of things done to me by every one in my life he was the only one my whole life that has never hurt me! He is the one that has always treated me right. He has not abuse me he has not raped me like all my other ex's so to me I do not see him doing what he was accused of.

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Oh I see what is happening (I work in the psychology field). You have been a victim of abuse and like a lot of victims, they don't seem to recognize right from wrong in some instances and they end up becoming involved with abusers (like in the case of this man) because that's all they know and unconsciously it has become a "model" for them. The fact that you haven't seen this man for so long and you searched so much to get in touch with him is giving me huge red flags.

This is called Denial. Particularly because the police charged him with the abuse and you seem to blatantly decide to ignore it, maybe it makes you feel good and justify your rationalization that being in love with a child abuser isn't as bad as people think it is because he is really "innocent" but it contradicts your previous position when you said:

Well I am afraid to tell you this but you need help. Not only for what is happening now but for your past issues. It sounds like you have deep psychological scars that need treatment with a professional. I would like to encourage you to do it because it really scares me to know that you may get romantically involved with this man or any other similar kind of man and if kids are in the picture, they may end up being abused or murdered and you will still being in denial.

Please seek for help, you need it.

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How about the fact that kids will not be in the picture because I have found out that I can not have kids so there is no worry about him doing it again with any kids in our life. He should not have to live a life all alone for something that who knows if he did do or not. He still deserves to have some one to love.

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Did you ever hear about adoption? Your reasoning is so scary.

It's amazing to me that you only talk about him as the one suffering, yet you seem to have no concern at all about the baby, I haven't read anything on your part to show any sort of compassion towards this newborn who did not ask to be abused by this man.

Again, seek help. You are showing huge red flags.

Edited: Sleuth on 26th Nov, 2010 - 1:15pm

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No offense but is this becoming more about you being loved rather than him being loved? Isn't he in jail? You have your whole life ahead of you, find someone in the right place and move on.

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He is in jail for something he might have done. That does not mean every one should turn on him and hate him. It does not mean he does not deserve to know that some care about him. He has been in for three years now and still is in. He is being taught a lesson. Yes it is not fair for the baby to have to go through something so young. That does not mean that they will never have a life. They are still able to grow up. The baby did not die from it so why should he have to die. Who knows why he did it or how he did it or anything. I just know that most people are not able to handle kids. Yes I have heard about adoption but I am not all that interested in adopting a kid. I want to know that I can give it a happy life and I do not feel I could do that if I am not happy. I have gone to counseling and gotten help. It is hard to think that the one person that I have always wanted is having to sit there while many people want him dead. I'm sorry but I do not want him dead. He deserves a chance to change and to never do anything like that again. He should be able to prove that he can be a good guy and live his like like any one else. Don't you think that 6 years of being locked up and away from it all would teach him something?