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Loneliness: Special Needs Child

Loneliness: Special Needs Child

I am in the park. I am using my laptop. I am writing what I see in real time. It's nothing that brings me happiness, it is all the opposite - loneliness: a special needs child. A child I love dearly, my son. His needs are never met, he is in constant need of social attention.

As I watch Felipe sit on one of the park's rides I see in his eyes loneliness. He is waiting for someone to come play. It is 11am though, most children are in school and only by chance will some child come with their parents. He sits and waits. In the distance he sees a father walking his little girl. Felipe follows their path closely. You can see that he is hoping that they are coming towards the park, but they are not... they continue past and he is disappointed.

Playing with daddy is okay, but it will be nice to have someone his own age - he sits and waits. He moves to another part of the park - the slides. It is high in the air, he can see better if anyone is coming, but no one is coming - it is the loneliness of a special needs child.

I long for a future whe he can have the environment and help needed to overcome his callenge - loneliness of the special needs child.

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As I was praying last night with tears in my eyes and telling Heavenly Father the pain of this mother, I was thinking about this post. I have seen what is described here, many times. It is heartbreaking. Sometimes I think the fact that Felipe is not aware of his challenges is a blessing in disguise, how heartbreaking would it be for a child to know of all the things he is missing and why other kids look at him strange because he is "special"?

Loneliness in the eyes of my son is something very hard to watch. But loneliness in the eyes of my son who is also a special needs son is even harder. Hence my signature on this forum. Having many brothers and sisters who he can count with, play with and be there for him without having that loneliness look is all I can offer at the moment besides my love.

I pray for a miracle every day....and I pray hard the Lord have mercy upon Him and grant us the things we need to satisfy our son's needs.

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I feel your pain. Having now two special needs children, my middle child diagnosed with Aspergers, OCD, and ADHD, and my oldest child still in the diagnosis phase. They too experience this. It is heart breaking.

My oldest son is old enough to realize that he is different, and to notice that others don't seem to want to play with him. He asked me last month why people say he is weird. I told him it was okay to be weird and that different is awesome. He accepted that, but for how long?

My middle child is the epitome of loneliness. He has low self esteme and now its getting worse as he still can't stop wetting the bed and his younger sister is no longer wetting the bed. He is embarrassed and with drawn from others. He always plays alone, because when he is with others, his compulsions annoy the other kids and his obsessions drive them away. He doesn't want people around that can't play in a particular way, but he hates being alone. I don't know how to help him. I don't know what to say to him because I can't relate to what he is going through. I went through much of what my older son is going through, but not my middle child.

JB's description literally brought tears to my eyes. Sitting here trying to get through this post without crying any more. Nothing breaks a parents heart more than a child who is hurting.

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I also feel for you too Konquererz. Too bad our kids cannot play together. I find that there are a very few children who are willing to tolerate a special needs child. He does have one or two that likes him when he goes to Church, but that is once a week and he needs daily doese of attention from his age group.

Child Special Loneliness

As a father this is heart breaking as one of the most enjoyable things is to watch your children grown and play with their friends. My oldest is nine and has a hard time finding people that he likes to play with. I can relate to the weight in your hearts. Fortunately we are breaking ground with him and he is starting to get others to play with him. My sons problem is different but similar in that he reads and thinks at a grade 8 level in grade 4 and finds many of the games they play boring or unable to hold his interest but his social skills are low grade 3. He has been diagnosed with higher cognitive issues.

When he was 3 to 5 it seemed almost impossible to find male children his age to played with and all to often JB's description was played out before my eyes.

My son found the martial arts and it was a great breakthrough for him as he found quick acceptance there by some with ADHD as well as some who border on genius all in his age bracket.

I do not know what is available in you area but perhaps seeking a sports team or such that cater towards those with issues might help. Or even just a soccer club that has a very understanding coach.

I could almost hear his heart aching for the joy of a playmate. I shall lift you in prayer in this Kong and JB because this is truly one of the hardest issues a child should never have to face. Dang this world is just unfair. I was taught by my father all are equal and we were never allowed to exclude any from our play.

Loneliness: Special Needs Child

It's really sad and heartbreaking to hear that there are so many lonely children out there because they have special needs.
Even finding a club or activity for them is difficult as no-one is prepared to give them a chance, or get the extra help in needed.
I understand where you're all coming from, many a time I've been in tears at the injustice that my kids have had to put up with just because they are seen as 'different'.
My daughter doesn't understand that other children sometimes don't want to play with her, and thinks that everyone is her friend-even those she doesn't even know!

Other parents I feel should have the responsibility of encouraging their children to play with other children regardless of what there ability is.

This prejudiced behavior should be stamped out before it affects the next generation.

I'm sorry I don't have any solid suggestions for solving this problem, but I'm certainly thinking of you all, and hoping that there will be a solution sometime soon.

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We are planning a very small birthday party for Felipe. He is excited and afraid at the same time. He told me last night that maybe the few kids we want to invite won't show up and he will be all by himself in the party and that will make him very sad. He almost broke in tears telling me that. Poor guy. He just want to be around kids, no matter who they are or how they treat him.

Yesterday I was reading a post on a site of a mother who has a child with special needs. She was saying how her 10 year old son came home from school and told her that he learned a new magic trick. She naively asked, tell me about the trick. And the son replied "Every time is lunch time and I approach a table, everybody disappears".

Heartbreaking....

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That is sad, I hope he has brothers or sisters that keep him company at home. That is our hope with the expansion of our family, ensure he has blood relations that will back him up when the strangers don't.