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SHYNESS COULD HURT KIDS LATER ON

If your son or daughter is withdrawn from peers as a preschooler, chances are he or she may be on the way to developing a negative self view later in life, according to research by a Brigham Young University professor.
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I had heard this opinion by a school counselor when my middle child was around two years old. He was very shy and wouldn't play with children. We made him play and get involved, and two years later, he is out going and plays with lots of other children. He is still shy around adults, but interacting with his own age group is more important. Its not surprising at all to find an actual study has come out backing this view up. I have seen first hand that children are happier playing with others and not hanging back. He just couldn't make the leap on his own for some reason.

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I agree that shyness can cause problems years later. As a child, I didn't have a problem with shyness, but I wouldn't stand up for myself either, resulting in several people along my walk of life 'walking over me'.
I think that if you can't speak up for yourself, you can miss out on a lot of opportunities.
For me personally, it took years for me to stand up for myself, and one employer in particular found out to his cost that I will only take so much abuse. I can honestly say that although it took a bad experience to make me come out of my 'shell' it has certainly made me stronger.

I was determined to not have my Son have a problem with shyness, and I don't know whether it's totally good, but he now takes after my Husband who tells it as it is, he is very straightforward.
People either love or hate this, and it can often be taken the wrong way especially with my Husband who is quite blunt with what he has to say, but in my opinion, people who are not shy, certainly seem to get further on in in life.

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Yes, from personal experience I agree. Shyness can cause problems in life.

One night, when I was pregnant with my daughter, I just started crying (Imagine THAT, pregnant and crying!) My husband asked "what, what's wrong?"
And I blurted out between sobs, "I'm scared she's going to be shy like me!"

So far, she's so very NOT shy. I didn't really get shy until about age 11, but hopefully she'll stay like she is and my shyness won't rub off on her. Of course I don't want her to be a bully or a loudmouth, but my wish is for her to be able to walk into a room of people and feel confident and sure of herself, be able to look others in the eye and not blush every time someone talks to her.