How do you feel about children being spanked in public? I see some people get upset when seeing a child getting spanked. Some places in the states have a no spanking zone. (Some parts of California) If caught spanking your children you could be fined. I know for a fact in Germany, you are not allowed to spank your children. The polizei (German Police) will arrest you for child abuse. I know this might seem strange but the German kids are well behaved. There no where as bad as the kids in the states. How do they view public spankings in Trinidad ?
Also so here is a scenario below, what would you do ?
Your at a supermarket walking down the aisle and your 4 year old picks up their favorite snack. You tell your child to put the snack back. Your child throws the snack down and begins screaming and kicking the shopping cart. What do you do ?
A. Tell your child that's not nice and to behave themself.
B. Count to 10 and tell them if they don't straighten up by the time you finish counting. There's going to be trouble.
C. Just snap and give them a spanking they will never forget.
D. Take your child to the car and spank them.
E. None of the above.
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Spanking Children In Public (Hover)
I have had this happen with my grandson. I tell him that he is going to get a time out when we get home unless he stops. He usually stops. If he doesn't he gets a time out when we go home. While he is throwing his little fit, though, I simply ignore him. This behavior is done for attention or to get what they want. If from the very beginning the child consistently sees that this behavior doesn't get them what they want, they will stop doing it. The problem is when the consequences are inconsistant. If it sometimes gets them what they want so that you are not embarrassed in public, then they will always do it because how do they know this is the one time it won't work.
If I am going to publicly hit any child it would need to be something I deemed extremely necessary. Somehow I thought it would save their life then and couldn't wait. I don't believe any child should be punished publicly. There is an amount of humiliation that goes with public punishment that I believe is counter productive in trying to raise children lovingly, yet firmly teaching them right from wrong.
Here in Trinidad, the parents hit a lot to their children yes to the extreme of child abuse. Many cases recently in the news about parents murdering the children, just plain sickening. I cannot wait to move from here. Just only a couple of years ago physical punishment was removed in the schools (just to show you the extent of it).
My son is a EXTREMELY hyper child, I tell you sometimes I really feel to give him a 'stay quiet' but I try to control myself, in public I chastise him a lot because he tends to act up more outside the home. I am against hitting children, I think it is horrible. I see parents here hitting the children with belts and all sorts of stuff! awful! so spanking for them is not a big issue, it is for me.
I do not believe in spanking children in public. I don't know that I will ever spank my children at all. I agree with Tena. When children realize that their behavior won't get them what they want, they will stop. Parents just have to be firm and consistent in their means of handling those types of situations.
If my child throws a fit like that, we leave the store, basket full or not, because I don't tolerate that type of behavior in public. I do believe in spanking, but never in public, and only for outright defiant or dangerous behavior. My mother did that, and threatened to do that: "I'll spank you right here in front of God and everybody!" she would say. Terrible memories.
IMO
Roz
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If my child throws a fit like that, we leave the store, basket full or not |
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Honestly, I dont have time to do this. My kid needs to understand the purpose of us being at the store, which is to purchase groceries. |
My point with leaving the store when the child is misbehaving is this. By the time you go through the checkout counter and get to the car, the child has already forgotten about their misbehavior. If you attempt to correct the child while they are exhibiting the behavior then it is better reinforced. Plus the child understands that their action is not going to make you change what you are doing. If we've come to the store to get groceries, then we stay there until we get all our groceries.