I have known a lot of people who could be termed as 'huggy' type people. I learned about some scientific studies on hugs a long time ago that I found interesting and I wanted to share some information about hugs with you.
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The theory is that touch is not only nice. It's needed! Scientific research supports the theory that stimulation by touch is absolutely necessary for our physical as well as our emotional well-being. Therapeutic touch, recognized as an essential tool for healing, is now part of nurses' training in several large medical centers. Touch is used to help relieve pain and depression and anxiety, to bolster a patient's will to live, and to help premature babies who have been deprived of touch in their incubator to grow and thrive. Article: https://www.survivingburns.org/HugTherapy1.html |
I am from a country where we hug and kiss a lot. It is part of our culture...it makes us feel closer to each other. I miss that sometimes. I do agree with the study that physical contact it is very important, specially in children. Expressions of love can be manifested in many ways and think that hugs and kisses and physical affections of these type can help the emotional health of an individual.
I love giving/getting hugs! I am definately huggy. I voted for full body hugs, but it really depends on who I'm hugging. If I'm hugging somebody I don't really know at church, then I'll give a brief hug with a pat on the back. If I'm hugging a member of the opposite sex who is not my boyfriend, family member, or long lost brother, then I'll do the "pastor hug," or the sideways hug. It just makes me feel so good to get a really big hug, and it definately makes my day.
I always joke that my "personal space" is so large, that everyone in the office is obstructing it. My family was never the "touchy feely" sort. I definitely am not! I do not mind the hugs and touching with my wife and children, but it is not for others. It is rather amazing though. Body language must say quite a bit, as those that are "touchy feely" with others will actually not even attempt to put a hand on me. Must be that or word gets around!
"Close-talkers" absolutely annoy me to no end (especially those with bad breath)!
Vincenzo
I grew up in a family that used hugs on a daily basis to greet others. When I met my wife, her family was quite the opposite and I found myself lunging forward to hug people who were very unresponsive to my advances. Like LDS_forever stated, some cultures promote the use of hugs as a personal greeting.
When I give hugs it is usually the brief greeting hug, and I am usually waiting to see if the person looks like they are expecting to receive/give a hug. I developed this patience after having moved away from my family and realizing that not everyone wants to hug me.
I've not been brought up in a very 'huggy' family, my family do give each member a kiss on the cheek when they see them, and one to say goodbye, other than that, there was no hugs.
I have always given my kids hugs, and my eldest son and his friends always greet each other with a huge hug.
I normally find myself holding my hand out to people to shake hands, only for them to ignore that gesture and either give me a huge hug, or a kiss on either side of the cheek.
I think maybe it's just me that was raised at arms length!
It's a yes or no type of thing for me. I dislike hugs from anyone except those I deem super close to me. Basically, my husband or my mom. I am less tense when my in-laws hug me, but it's taken eight years to get to this point. For co-workers, it's the same, as I get a little tense when we hug, but it's not horrible.