I think having a special child of our own makes us be even more empathetic to what others may be going through. Do all you can WITHIN your ability to do so but I would never let it compromise what I am already doing for my own children. I would love to help a lot of people but sometimes I cannot help myself or my children and so I have to resolve to knowing I could only wish to do so. I guess what I am saying is do not feel guilty but there is nothing wrong with establishing communication with others who may just need to know someone is thinking about them.