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I have been married for 14 yrs. My husband is the a-typical attention seeker - guilty of all topics mentioned here. we have two girls, our own homeand all the normal problems that go with finances, a bond, a car and etc. I am at my wits end with this. Energy drained each night. have had suicide threatsl 'I will kill you' threats and a rib or two broken. have to boost ego every waking moment, handle the constant drinking and also had to give up my chosen career. I am so far gone that I have become an attention seeker myself!do not know if this is what was meant by 'introduce yourself' but this is me. help!? had as much as I can take. Cannot talk to him as he swops the subject over to himself - every day! please help. it is late and I have just managed to get him inside the house, not into bed though, but at least inside!everything gets blown out of proportion into a blatant lie, from a sore toe to etc. I cannot say anything to correct for fear of retribution from him! I am not an angel myself, but have just so much energy whivh my girls need more. how do I help him? have been to psychologists and and and!'

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I am glad you are here and I am sure you will find many good ideas and many bad ones. I would suggest posting precise questions in the appropriate boards to get thigs started.

I will pray for your situation and I hope you return here often. We have many caring members. I am a alcoholic myself and I can tell you right now he has to make this choice for sobriety and common decency to make it happen. You can only ensure you are not his enabler. I strongly suggest finding a safe house for a week or so to give him time to think as well as yourself. You parents or his or a sibling that will not condemn you for your actions nor condemn him. Instead just give you a place to sleep and eat that is safe and a should to let some of the emotion out so you can start thinking real hard on where you are how safe you are and what you want for your future and the future of the girls.

I have messed up more then any one man should ever in one life time. I have been blessed with a loving wife who may not understand what I did or do but was willing to let me work through it. The working through it is tough but deep healing I shard and often very painful. Good part is once through life is better then it ever was before.

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I think you need to get yourself and your daughters out form under him for the time being. Go to your parents or his parents house. Let him sober up and realize that he is in danger of losing all that he has. I hope that will help him realize that he has a problem and will seek to get it worked out. HE has some issues to get resolved and harming you or his kids is not going to make them go away.