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Name: ANONYMOUS

Comments: I am actually struggling with this issue myself. I am 19 years old and I know for a fact I was born GAY. I say that because I liked boys at a very young age and I was taught that it was something wrong to do and I am a Christian. I have tried to make myself mentally and physically be attracted to a woman but I just couldn't its like being attracted to men has had a stronghold on me. And I was molested at a young age by males before but before that event even occurred I was still drawn to men so I would say that people are born gay. Because if I could have it any other way if there was a shot or pill I could take to become straight I would because lets face it being gay is not accepted and I am currently in the closet and refuse to come out people already suspect me of being gay but I will not be open because its not welcomed. Also, its like I cant have an erection towards a woman but I can towards a man. So I figured I could just be with a woman and take Viagra pills and force myself to love her and have sex with her what do you all think?

Gay and Christian

I think that if you force yourself to have a relationship with a person you do not love it will blow up in your face. I will put this question for you to think on. If you are a christian then why not take this to God and he can help bring around permanent change in your heart about this. Also do seek good christian counseling and be bold in the issue do not hide anything but bring it out so you can receive any healing required. (Not just about you sexual preference but all the emotional scaring from having to hide it as well.)

Christian & Gay Revealed Bible The

Anon, I agree with Krakyn. If you haven't already I would urge you to talk to someone about this. If you don't feel you can talk to friends then you must see a counsellor-be it in the church or in a regular setting.

I don't say this because you are gay. Personally, I don't see that as an issue but it is clear that you are having problems with it and it is important to talk these things through. A counsellor will offer you a space in which to share your feelings in a confidential environment which means that you can be open and honest without worrying about the reactions of your friends or family. Also, you mentioned you were molested and it is even more important to be able to talk about that with someone.

The Christian religion is a broad church. Certainly there are many in it antagonistic towards gay people, however, there are also those who don't agree with this approach and would accept you for who you are. There are some who might accept your "choice" (because they can't understand you when you say it wasn't a choice) but still tell you they believe you are sinning. But at least they won't cast you out.

I know it's difficult enough in normal circles never mind the church to be open about your sexuality but you would only be doing yourself more harm to "force" yourself into a relationship with a woman. It's not what you want and you would come to resent her. It would also not be fair on her as a woman deserves a boyfriend or husband who loves her completely and you are unable to provide that.

Find a counsellor you can trust, my friend, and get all your feelings out. You don't need to "come out" to all and sundry but I think it is in your best interests to share your burdens with someone.

No one should have to walk alone.

Gay and Christian

Anonymous, I think is a terrible idea to force yourself into a relationship with someone you do not love or feel attracted to. Remember also that the other person has feelings and you may hurt them in order to protect yourself.

I do not know you but I think your terrible experiences as a child led you to how you feel today (even if you think BEFORE that you was attracted to men), it may seem that way but I am confident it is THE reason. Having said you need a lot of support, if you do not want to come out of your closet at least talk with a psychologist or a church leader who may help you go through this.

No matter what, remember you are special and you are not alone.

Gay and Christian

I am going to ask you to pray on this for guidance to the correct person to give you good solid help. You might be shocked at how many you know who have dabbled in both sexual orientations and their thoughts on it. There can be so much a play in cases like this and those threads need to be unraveled and examined so healing can come.