
PATHOLOGICAL DEMAND AVOIDANCE SYNDROME
LDS_forever led me to this and I found it very close to Felipe's characteristics:
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PDA is related to, but separate from, what is currently termed the autistic spectrum, namely autism and Asperger syndrome. Individuals with PDA are typically socially manipulative with people, and are thus superficially socially skilled, which sets them apart from autism and Asperger syndrome. People with PDA usually have good eye contact, and use this to good effect when socially manipulating others. They lack self identity, and children find it difficult to recognise that they are not adult, and seldom identify with other children. While people with PDA usually know how others should behave, they are unable to include themselves within these expectations. They are often imitative of inappropriate behaviour, and it is for this reason that, wherever feasible, support should be given in mainstream school to provide them with as normal a peer group as possible. They show an obsessive need to dominate in social interactions, and to ensure that everything is done on their own terms, and often come across as overbearing. It is helpful to view this behaviour as a defensive strategy that is borne out of deep anxiety about the demands that they fear will be made of them, and a need to control their environment to prevent this. |
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Some children try to keep a very low profile, trying to blend in to avoid any attention being drawn to them, and this has been described by some as the 'Camouflage Effect'; however, when they receive unwanted attention they may become actively disruptive. Some hit out or swear as another way of stopping imminent demands. These two types of PDA behaviour both seem anxiety-induced and might be described as 'actively passive' to 'actively disruptive'; they could be seen as possible sub-groups, but some children move from one type of behaviour to another at different ages. It is important to remember that these children do not choose to behave in these ways. It is their inability to cope with what they perceive as the stress of everyday demands that manifests itself differently according to their individual personalities, and possibly underlying cognitive deficits and neurological pathologies. |
It seems this is what Felipe has since most with PDA are diagnosed later having been diagnosed first with autism. Having said that, the key elemeny is:
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It is important to remember that these children do not choose to behave in these ways. It is their inability to cope with what they perceive as the stress of everyday demands that manifests itself differently according to their individual personalities, and possibly underlying cognitive deficits and neurological pathologies. |
Yes, well regardless to the specifics it is obvious he is not willfully behaving like that it is rather spontaneous and reactive. It is like someone being thrown into a cold lake, they just shout and act without much thought about the surrounding but instead react to the freezing water, in Felipe's case the 'cold lake' is just basic tasks of day to day living. It will be nice to read something on how it is managed in adulthood. I noticed there was some listed source material, hopefully we can get a hold of those. There is an Email listed, you should check if its listed.