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I think Reuben Clark expressed it better than I did:

It is absolutely normal to feel sexually attractive to our spouses but we need (like I said) to be careful to not treat them as sexual possessions to be used to satisfy our lust. How can that be right? We should remember they're our eternal companions and should be treated accordingly. When we're just thinking about our own needs and "urges" without taking into consideration our spouses (may feel sick or may not want to do it) then something isn't right in the picture. Sexual intimacy is something between TWO people, in mind, body and spirit. Not ONE person and the other there doing it just because the other person feels for it.

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I agree entirely with President Clarks statement.

I am not saying that we should fulfill our own urges at the expense of our partners, but to fulfill each others desires and urges because of love for them. There is no aspect of property, or convenience in this.

Men and women should fulfill each others needs. At least in my own marriage sometimes my wife needs a man who can "take her" and give her pleasure. Sometime I need my wife to be a "wild woman". It is mutual, it is wholesome and I have never treated my wife as my possession or has she treated me as her possession. We give to each other freely something that we both desire, and when their is illness or a lack of desire to have sex on either side (there are times I do not want to have sex because of fatigue or illness), there is restraint and never pressure or hurt feelings. Our desire is to please one another completely (both romantically and sexually) and in doing so we fulfill each other's and our own needs as a Married couple.

I do not believe however that within Marriage there is a Cart blank allowance for self gratification or that self gratification is the goal of sexual union. I look at it more as trying to please the other person and when both partners look at it this way then loving sex is the result that is very fulfilling. I believe this view is entirely within the context of Brother Clark's admonition.

Parley P. Pratt has noted:

There is nothing unholy about sexual expression within a marriage if it is within the bounds the Lord has set, if these desires are reserved exclusively for our spouse.

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Thanks for clarifying your points.

I agree although we need to remember that past Church leaders have spoken against certain sexual practices as unholy within marriage. What is your view on the matter?

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As far as I understand it Sodomy, oral Sex, etc are all outside of the natural affections one should have for his or her spouse and should not be practiced.

But really enjoying the act of sex itself is entirely within the bounds the Lord has set.

At least this is how I understand the issue.

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I still can't get over that if I were born into the Church just a couple of decades ago my Bishop would have been asking me what kind of sexual acts I perform with my wife. Worst of all... Like most other things in the Church, the 'advice' or 'counsel' I would get would largely be that person's opinion. That is scary to consider, no wonder the Church told them to stop asking that. I can't imagine the Church questioning people about such things when Bishops are rarely educated in any kind of psychology, etiquette, etc.

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This is definitely important. I believe if you truly loved the person before sex came into the equation then the act only further strengthens the bond.

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I know several single people (Both men and women) who after coming from their missions are almost in desperate "mood" to get married. They date anybody and willing to pop-up the question or say yes just to get married as soon as possible. I understand the counsel of the leaders about getting married and form a family but I think some overdo it and they are willing to do anything. It's scary.

A friend of mine who tried to serve a mission twice (But he returned without finishing) was trying to date any girl he could and get married. Most girls in the stake knew that he did not finish his mission and were not willing to date him even though he was a very handsome guy. Soon is discovered that this guy had issues with the Law of Chastity, hence his "rush" mood into marriage.

So isn't marriage sometimes an excuse to satisfy lustful desires?

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I personally think this is sometimes the case.

A little like having a giant red "A" pinned to your chest.