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I will continue to work with them because their financial advisor happens to be my boss. So, whether I want to or not, I still have to do their financial statements every month. I already had to meet with her to go over some issues with their past accountant messing up their payroll taxes, and that was really awkward. She wanted to hug me! That was just weird.

I'm taking nice deep, calming breaths... In through the nose, out through the mouth. Rest and repeat.

Oh, and by the way? That raise request I put in for my job back in February? My boss is asking me to justify it by calculating how much revenue the department generates and how many salaries are supported by it. Can you believe it? Like he doesn't know the numbers himself! It's an exercise to make me feel bad....

I thank you all for your support and generosity with your prayers. I'll be okay, but right now I'm just reeling.

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My gosh, I read this and it makes my blood boil. Since when you have to "justify" a raise in salary? Wow, they see you like a slave! It makes me very angry when people do these sort of stuff. *Sigh* I don't know what to say to make you feel better but I hope the storm passes quick.
Love you,
LDS

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FarSeer, I get the feeling that you may be selling yourself short. If you are indispensable there then you need to let them know that! Probably because of your mortgage you are willing to eat trash for awhile, but I would seriously look for other avenues on the side where people APPRECIATE your talents and skill and SHOW that appreciation with CASH and NOT hugs, kisses and "thank you's".

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I agree with JB you they do not deserve you. We shall pray for your work and talents to be recognized and appreciated. I know it is tough to work for those who do not appreciate you and your work. Hang in there as you know non of God's clouds come with out a silver lining.

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Should I come over there and knock some sense into them? I know I can knock very hard.

I hope that things improve and that you can find a way to either get out on your own and let them sink or find someone place where they will take your talents and put them to good use. I hope that they also show you how much you mean with cold hard cash.

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I know things have not gone the way you like it, but if you want a positive just consider that you live in the land of opportunity and not a Banana Republic in the Caribbean. Maybe getting involved here again will throw your mind off the vigors of life, especially some doctrinal stuff, you used to be active in that, especially the mature section.

FarSeer Introduction - Page 81

It's been really rough. I've just been "going through the motions" for the past month: get up, go to work, get through the day, go home. Try to be a good mom for my daughter, and not show her how bad I really feel. But it creeps out in other ways... The dishes have been sitting in the sink for a week, I haven't put any laundry away for longer than that, and I can't remember the last time I vacuumed or scrubbed the floors.

I've come to a point where I know I have to "pull myself up by the boot straps" and get on with my life. It's really hard to do that, just taking the first step. Depression is like an anchor to the soul, pulling downward into darkness. I have to focus, snap out of this fog, for my own health. I've been to the temple and have felt more peaceful since then. I know the Lord loves me, He knows my situation and He will help me. But I have to take the first step, I have to reach out to Him and accept His help. I have to do the work to make the change.

It starts with counting my blessings, focusing on what I HAVE, and not what I DON'T HAVE. So I'm trying to regroup and identify the areas over which I have control so that I can get back on track. One thing at a time. Baby steps. I had no idea how hard that hit me.

And my boss keeps dangling the carrot: "Oh, yeah, I still have to calendar some time to calculate your salary adjustment..." and "I really want to incentivize our arrangement ... " "We'll be sure to make it retroactive... "

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I understand depression all to well. I can say one hundred things but in the end we all know what we have to do. I can mention what works for me:

1. Reading "As A Man Thinketh" by James Allen
2. Doing something fun to take your mind off things
3. Go do something productive, clean, fix that broken chair, visit someone