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What they want me to change?

Is there something that people always comment or hint about you that you just hate? You can call it a sterotype, but its more of their 'evaluation' of what they want you to do because they think it will benefit you (maybe it is to benefit their ego?)

Here is an example... I used to be a real fitness freak, just before and after marriage I got my pot belly so now people's first comment about me is my weight. It is very irritating becuase most of the time it is said with such ignornace that you want to slap them in the face. For instance I recently lost 15 punds, a person saw me and said that I am not losing any weight :

How about you? What do people normally want you to change?

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How about you? What do people normally want you to change?

I get people (particularly girls with short hair) telling me I need to cut my hair! : even they came on a group and tell me 'We think you should cut your hair' : helloooo???. I particularly think they're jealous because my hair is long, waivy and everybody admires it. They always say how beautiful it is. Some people cannot stand it because they're jealous....and before those incidents, I wanted to cut my hair but now I want to grow it even longer!!!!! LOL just to watch the faces of envy!!! *LOL*
I hate when people come with something so personal about you and they expect you to take it good...

What they want me to change? Health & Special Psychology

I am a very quiet person and quite shy and everyone is constantly telling me that I need to talk more and socialise with people, and I am always being told to smile  ;D  :

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Bell, yeah....they tell my husband about smiling pretty often : I don't know why people cannot accept the fact that somebody else is different and that not everybody are as emotional as they are. I think we need to accept people like they are and not make a big deal out of it.

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Sometimes my sister can be very critical, when she does things she thinks everyone else should. Like for example the time when she started to sleep very early at night she told me you shouldnt stay up so late on the internet at hight huh you should sleep at about 9:00pm like me.
so then after a while i started to sleep very early at night, but this year she has changed since last year and tells me why do you need so much rest? you should be able to just get 6 hours sleep then have lots of energy... and also when ever i like to just stay home she is always trying to make me visit her and she gets upset when i dont, but then when i want her to visit me she is always saying im working!
when ever she is in the mood to clean the house she thinks everyone else should also...
it anoys me

What they want me to change?

Delcita, lol... I know people like this, however, BE CAREFUL... your sister might join this forum and read this. (it has happened before)

What want to change

Delcita it seems to me based on what you're saying your sister is pretty much the one running and controling your life : how old is she and how old are you?

What want to change Psychology Special & Health

I am agoraphobic (fear of the market place).... I do not go far from home.
People tell me to just "get over it!" Take a Xanax and GO!

Also, people tell me to get a breast reduction.

The latter is not an appropriate topic to discuss, much-less advise me on.... but it happens..... A LOT.