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Most people I have found to first assume character based on physical look and appearance without waiting to talk to a person to see what their character is like. |
Everything starts with the 'eyes' and the way you look and present yourself have a great impact on people's concept about you. I'm not saying is right, I'm just saying that most of us assume people's character just by the way they dress or talk or move.
When people meet me, they tend to think I'm smart. Simply because I have glasses and apparently have that "studious" look about me. I'm not exactly dumb, I don't think, but I'm not some all knowing person.
Online in the RPG I'm an administrator on, people who don't me think I'm harsh. Over the computer, my professional attitude sometimes comes across as cold. It's not that I'm trying to be cold, I just like to get to the point and not sugar coat things. Once they get to know me, they realize that I'm not little miss nazi.
As much as I try not to judge people before I know them, I do. I won't necessarily judge people by how they look but more by their carriage. If somebody is just really jittery and seems as if they've done something wrong, I tend to get really nervous.
One of my problems is judging people AFTER I know them. I try to have the attitude of "It's okay if I don't like them, but just because we don't click doesn't mean either one of us is a bad person." Of course, I'm only human and that thought isn't in my head enough.
I think most people assume the character of another person because sometimes it is easier or they just do not want to bother to get to know the person first before making a judgment. It can be very harmful and most people do this all the time based on how the person looks, talks, the job they hold or how much money they have.
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People don't listen to me seriously in person for some reason ? |
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I try to be myself in the forum, although I admit I'm more energetic, outspoken and moody in real life. |
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More outspoken in real life than on the forum! How is that possible? |
I'm normally 'judged' as being "in control"... but the truth is I can be just as lost as the next person. People who are regarded as being in control are generally left to their own devices - That is, others reckon that you never -need- anything (like a hug, or a helping-hand, or just someone to listen while your heart's breaking)...or that if you -do- need something you'll get it for yourself.
Getting caught up in the image is no fun. For the most part I'm too ashamed to ask for the 'simple things that make all the difference' to one's experiences.... so I -do- end up finding a way for myself. On my good days, that's cool. I just get on with it. On my bad days (we all have 'em) I crave an intuitive other.
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That is, others reckon that you never -need- anything (like a hug, or a helping-hand, or just someone to listen while your heart's breaking)... |