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Going To Church Makes Me Irritated

Going to church makes me irritated

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Comments: I'm one of the black sheep that thinks going to church actually makes me a bit irritated. Yeah I know I'm a sinner and all that. My main complaint is about how robotic everyone is in what they do. I guess I'm not one for loads of smiles but nothing much behind it. If you really want to be my friend then you know just shaking my hand with "how are you?" doesn't really make my day. Maybe I'm just expecting too much or probably its the ward I go to I don't know but I've just thought sometimes to stay home. My siblings are the ones that push me to go. Really, I don't even know why I'm writing this here. I just wanted to get it off my chest I guess because I dont want to tell them how I really feel. I've done that now. Thanks for reading.

Irritated Me Church Going

I don't think you're a black sheep because you feel irritated going to church you know what am I saying? I always laugh when people try to say the church is everywhere the same, yeah right. I live here in mormonland and I tell you not everything is roses but hey keep the chin up you know what am I saying? You don't attend services to please men but to please God ya know people are people they ain't gonna change. As long as your focus is on the sacrament which its the most important part of the whole church then you're cool.

Going To Church Makes Me Irritated Studies Doctrine Mormon

I haven't been to a family ward for some time. Mostly been in the single adult sector. There are people that are part of the LDS culture. They have been going church for so long, they know what to expect, and thats how they are going to be. Usually this is the older Adults in the ward.

I think you can see people are trying to be nice. Now how this affects you is a little different. You can reacte this way, and maybe try to think people aren't really caring. OR you can be the one to be nice to others. Meaning if people are doing it wrong (as you say) and this is what irritates you. Then you can be the one the change things. You can be the nice person and mean it!

How about your try that for a while! Really the key to being a nice is caring about people! Once you get the chance to do Home Teaching and start to care about others, you aren't as irrated as much.

Irritated Me Church Going

Good point, Tubaloth.

In the US, at least, adults tend to think that youth are less capable of caring about others. And they treat the youth that way. In or out of church.

Once someone becomes a home teacher (actually giving lessons, testifying, and praying for these people), it becomes obvious that the home teacher cares. When someone knows that you care about them, they will naturally care about you. At that point, not everyone at church will care about you, but you will at least have a small group.

So, I don't know your age, or if your companion (if you are over 14) would let you actually be a home teacher (I still have companions like that, sadly), but that is a good option.

Good luck.

Irritated Me Church Going

The reality is people are people. You will find this type of actions in all social gatherings, and churches. I have non-member friends who say the same thing about their church. You will find this same thing in your school, work, or wherever you go.
I think from a personal perspective the question is then: How will you respond to such behavior? Because as you move through life you will find it again and again.
Something that I have found is the better you get to know these people the less of the facade your will find. You will get beyond the surface that you see and will begin to see them as people with trials, sadness, happiness, and filled with all of the complexities of life. Remember they are just trying to get by as much as the rest of us, the best way they know how. Have patience for them.
A good article to read on this subject is "The church is as true as the gospel" by Eugene England. I am sure if you google it you will find it. It is very popular and he shows how putting up with others at church is actually part of our process of perfection. Church can be a challenge at times. I think it is meant to be, to learn how to love those who we may find difficult, and to love those who may be very different from ourselves. There are people at church I would never have known or even associated with if I did not go to church. This has made me become more patient and develop love for others who I may never had. In a nut shell it has made me a better person even if it is a challenge to get up on Sundays to go. I do not think that your feelings are unusual, or that you are alone in your feelings.

Going To Church Makes Me Irritated

As I was preparing a class to teach Relief Society tomorrow I came across this part on the lesson from "Unselfish Service" by Elder Oaks:

Going Church Me Irritated

You know lds_forever I understand Elder Oak's words but I'm kind of concerned about different scenarios. Imagine a member who is going through a very difficult time in their family but they cant find no support whatsoever from their ward, etc....you know what am I saying? Why is it bad for this person to have the need of others in their ward when they feel so helpless? Yes, they can serve and help others but the pain still there and they need help. Calling them selfish and self-centered aint going to take away the pain.