The right person for me would have to be honest, kind, loving, funny, and have a great personality. He would have to be productive, willing to work hard, and would have to know what he wants to achieve in his career or his life within the next five years. He must have a plan, and must be ready and able to execute it in order to reach his goals.
He must have an open mind, and be willing to try new things. Most importantly, he must LOVE ME!
When I find this guy, I'll know he's the one.
Am I being too idealistic??? Is there such a man???? I believe there is. Come on guys, don't let me down.
No, you are not being too idealistic, hmm, kind of picky though  Â
about that "He must LOVE YOU" Â I believe that love by itself is not enough... I learned that by first hand. Â Besides of love and all those good virtues that you mentioned above I think that real compromise and lack of selfishness is sooooo important...
I just broke up with my ...hmm now ex  :'(, like a month ago... there was so much love in that relationship but there was no seriousness and REAL compromise, at least not enough to keep the relationship going... I will say that we both were selfish and that ruined everything...  I know that he loved me but just didn't show much interest in my things because he was so busy  into his things that  he barely showed  support (If only in words) in the things that I hold dear the most, so that killed me and killed the relationship...
What I would just ask for are:
1.-Love: Not just for me but also for the others.  To treat me as I deserve to be treated, kind of like a queen  in the good sense of the word no in the selfish, greedy one.
2.-Respect.  To accept me as I am, to give me my place  as his gf or wife.
3.-Compromise: Â This is about a WIN-WIN relationship, I give and I take, this special person must understand there are times in life when you have to sacrifice things for others as other have to sacrifice things for the best of both.
4.-Support: Â To understand the others needs and try to meet them, also to understand the others goals and help the significant one to reach them.
5.-Policy of truth: Somebody lie to me then goodbye. There are not even such things as innocent lies, it is all the same..
plus some good habits, a good vocabulary, you know someone decent, a cultivated person... generous in all the sense of the world, no materialistic. etc.
I think i am getting down... Â I miss little John.. :-[
Oh well girls, I don't think you all are being too idealist at all. Any woman want to feel loved and respected by a good man who knows where he's standing. Women in general always look for that security that men seems to provide but I think that the best way to find that right one is first loving ourselves enough to be able to love someone else....
A guy with money or with a great career may seem important but when you get married you'll find that those things are secondary if there is truly love in that marriage...
For me, I already found the right one and what I looked for was a loving person who wanted to have a family and who have a great spiritual strength.
We are happily married for almost 4 years and we have a 2 years old son. So I know you all can find that right one too...it's only a matter of time
Here is the man's point of view... (or at least my point of view) ;D
If a woman makes you feel to do better, to achieve more, to be happy and if she can represent you and your family in good standing (that you should not have to wonder what she will say or do) and most of all your love for each other is equal then that is the person!
Equally you should feel to do your best for her in every way. I would never enter a marriage where there is so much fighting just on a date or where you feel you cannot trust the person.
Most marriages fail I think because most people do not ask the questions before marriage like... who will take out the garbage, who will feed baby at night, etc... You may be suprised at the responses and this will help you to know your future match.