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What you would do if you cannot have children? - Page 3

To adopt a special needs child is admirable, but you would have to be sure that your current lifestyle is calm enough to handle it. I have seen a number of documentaries about parents who tried doing this and it became a sever strain on the family in many ways.

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I know I'm still pretty young but I've put alot of thought into this and I would have to say it would be up tomy husband, i'd want to try everything but if it wasn't possible I would adopt, depending on my husbands decision.

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I would love to adopt a child. I have two already, one grown and one still in grade school, but I have this little nagging thing in the back of my mind that pops up now and then that I should look into adoption. I couldn't adopt special needs, because I work full time, but an older child closer to my daughter's age I think would work for us. She could have the sister she's always wanted, and our little family could grow.

I don't think it's just "wishful thinking."

Roz

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I have never wanted children, because I know in my heart I would not make a good mother. This had not been a problem, because I was in my 40's and not married yet, with no prospect on the horizon. Then I met Paul and fell head over heels in love. For the first time in my life I wondered what it would be like to have a child with the man I loved. We discussed it for a long time and because of my age and the fact that I have hypertension, I could not have a child without lots of difficulty and expense. We decided that children was really not for us. I did not have the desire needed to go through a difficult birth. I truly have never heard my so called biological clock tick. I think that if I were to have a baby it would be for my husband and not cause I wanted a child to love. We never considered adoption mainly because of expense, but also because our unconventional marriage would probably disqualify us. I sing the praises of all the parents who bring children into the world no matter what the difficulties, I just can't do it. I hope you don't think I'm a bad person because of that.

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bwren and I have talked about this topic extensively. We would definitely consider adoption. We currently don't have a children, but want to share our lives with children. I have had two miscarriages in the past so I am nervous that maybe I can never carry a child. I know that technology has advanced so much for infertile couples, but I don't know that fertility treatments would be feasible. My problem is not that I can't get pregnant, but that I can't stay pregnant. I haven't been diagnosed as to why I lost the first two pregnancies. I have learned to accept the fact that it was God's will. That is wasn't the right time. The miscarriages happened before I met bwren. I sometimes think that maybe God doesn't intend for me to have my own children, but to provide a home to children that have no one else to care for them. We even decided that even if we can have our own children, we still want to adopt if our financial situation allows us to. We want to do what we can to help since so many children are in foster care and in need of loving homes.

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Cwahsheh, thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry about your lost. Miscarriages are more common than we think. I have already a child and on May last year I had a miscarriage and now I am 6 months pregnant. I know many women having two or three miscarriages and then getting pregnant. I think regardless of the outcome, you should make sure to get diagnosed of the problem, not only for the possibility of getting pregnant again but for obvious health reasons.
I think is both wonderful and admirable the fact you want to adopt kids. I always wanted to do this and I hope I am able to do it one day.

What would if you have children - Page 3

I had fertility treatment to conceive with my eldest Son, it was a stressful, nerve racking time, but was really worth it all when I found out that the treatment had worked.We were delighted to be having a baby, I still see him as my little miracle (even though he is now 16)

After my son was born, I had a lot of failed pregnancies, that I won't expand on this thread, as it's more suitable probably for another thread.

We then decide that enough was enough, and that we were more suited to fostering children, as we liked the idea of helping more than 1 child.

We had been fostering for a number of years, and hadn't contemplated adoption whatsoever, until we were asked by a Judge to consider adopting 2 children that we were fostering, as they had been trying to find a permanent family for them, and couldn't, so the next step was to split the children up, and move them into separate families.

We really felt that these children were getting a rough deal, that they had suffered enough in their short lives, and that they deserved a better deal than to be split up.

Having gone through all 3 different routes, I can highly recommend any of these options, a child doesn't have to be born naturally to you, to be able to love them, and they truly become your own, in all senses of the matter.