Why Can't a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?
In the seventh installment of the series, Sherri Shepherd, co-host of ABC's "The View," and Jacque Reid, star of VH1's "Let's Talk About Pep," will debate "CSI" star Hill Harper, and Jimi Izrael, author of "The Denzel Principle" on why many successful black women cannot find a man. Are black women's expectations too high? Who's to blame, black women or black men? Ref. Source 7
This topic for me has many facets to it. I am not black however I have been paying attention to this subject. Not only in the black community but in general.
If there is no stable economy how can there truly be a stable low income family? When money is tight or non - existent fingers are pointed and the battle ground has been set. Neither mate is happy and they begin to seek happiness elsewhere.
Another facet of the issue that I have heard and find to be true. Woman do not know what to do with a good man when they find one. They try to find things wrong with the relationship instead of focusing on the good and working on the bad little by little. Men have a hard time changing things about themselves. So if there are a few things about a guy that you do not like you will probably just have to learn to deal with it. Otherwise you are going to push him away, unless you can find a civil way to address the issue. Also many times woman will cheat on a good man and use any number of reasons claiming it is not their fault. This will crush a truly good man and turn him into a man who in the future will not take a woman seriously.
I quess for me the issue is not so mutch why can't a Black woman find a good man. It is, what is the Black woman (and others) doing to change this problem. When you look at American society woman are encouraged to cheat and be bossy. How are we as men supposed to take you seriously when we know you are two faced. You want us to drop our guard and show our inner emotions to you, yet at the same time you hold a gun to our exposed heart just waiting for a reason to pull the trigger.
I think a woman needs to know who she is and what she wants. She needs to be pretty consistent with her emotions and demands. Otherwise I am not going to take her seriously. I will play along in the game if I am interested in her. However I will not allow myself to truly care for her or love her.
Edited: Oliron on 21st Apr, 2010 - 5:13pm