When someone you know is cheating are you obligated to tell.
Besides that general question I have a particular one. I know a guy who is being cheated on. He is not a friend and either is the woman, but I know she is cheating on him. He hasn't taken the clues because every time he confronts her she lies and says nothing is going on. Am I obligated to inform him of her infidelity? Even though he may not want to know, or be in denial.
That is what I am thinking but what if he just trusts her too mutch. Maybe he needs someone to take him aside and give him the truth. I feel like I would want to know if that was going on to me. At the same time I get it that it isn't really my place. Then again I feel almost obligated to let him know.
I am one of those people who try to not get involved in something like this. But if the guy comes to me and asks me if she is cheating on him I will tell him if I know. If I do not know then I will say so. I will not lie for someone or expect them to lie for me. I would stay out of it if you can but like I said if he asks you then tell him the truth.
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Comments: This is a complicated situation. Conscience is playing up, no doubt. I know this situation from personal experience. I decided to enlighten the person that has been the victim of adultery. I know I wouldn´t do it again, because she had made up her mind to turn a blind eye to her husband´s behaviour. Quite often people do except infidelity to keep up the relationship,
I would have no qualms about not telling him, especially if he really is in denial. Personally I would never cheat on a spouse and do not have a full understanding of why others do it, and I would certainly want to know if my spouse is unfaithful, but I know enough that if a person is in denial they can become very mean when you try to show them the truth. Instead, opt to tell him the truth only if he asks.
A friend of mine in a similar situation showed her friend the truth instead of telling her. She knew that her friend's spouse frequented a particular bar with the person she cheated with. So she carried her friend to the same bar for drinks around the same time. My friend ended up being the one who was cold shouldered. Of course, it was a lesbian couple and my friend had another agenda for showing her, but the concept is basically the same.
Oliron, I would not tell him anything because as the saying goes "there is no worst blind than the one that does not want to see". In this case, I am 100% sure he KNOWS she is cheating on him, he is in absolute denial and willing to go with the relationship. If I was you, I wouldn't get involved at all.
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Comments: Now a new level has shown itself. I´m totally helpless, I must confess. This discussion is about telling a woman if her guy is unfaithful with another woman or telling a man if his girlfriend is unfaithful with another man. What is to be done if the good buddy has switched the gender, that means, if he´s gotten involved with another guy for a change? That´s a new one! Could prove to be far more harmful if his wife found out. And, in case you are wondering, he claims he never did this before and the other one is a childhood-friend, also without any history in the field. I pointed out it could be a passing fancy and to just let it pass, at that they laughed. Excuse me? Can this happen after a certain age? If, it must have lain dormant, it can´t have come out of the blue?