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It seems to be getting worse, in the ward I attend. I can understand a denim skirt, but flip-flop sandals and t-shirts? That really is a lack of understanding, I think. Thank you for a great article, LDS!

Roz

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Last year for our State conference we had an apostle who attended. His name was President Dallin Oaks. After he left we had our ward conference. At our ward conference our Stake president told us President Dallin Oaks told him he was very disappointed to see how the sisters in the ward was dressed. We were all shocked by his statement. I looked next to me and saw a sister trying her best to pull up her blouse. I am so glad he said that especially for the young women in our ward.
Paintingblue

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I hope this is not wrong, but I find nothing "sexier" then modesty. When my wife wears a regular spring dress that goes to her knees , I think she is beautiful. She has a black dress that is totally appropriate for any formal occasion, that when she has it on I want to dance with her.

I am sensitive to the dress of women as any other man and when a woman shows more skin then necessary it actually makes her less appealing, and does not leave much to the imagination. When a woman covers her body appropriately she is making statement that she wants to be viewed as pure as well as beautiful.

That is why I am so grateful for the temple garment. It provides a tangible way to know how to be modest and does not leave room for inappropriate clothing.

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dbackers:

I do not know how it is where you live but where I live is really bad, a very big problem in both Youth and Women (The weather does not help either since is summer all year long). Having said that, every Sunday I see the following:

1. Sisters as well as Young Women dress in extremely low-cut blouses (so low that their top "private parts" are partially exposed! and I am not kidding!) Some of them are endowed members.

2. Extremely tight clothing, sometimes they have long skirts but they are so tight they can hardly walk.

3. Low-cut skirts. Many times I felt strongly to tell a sister that her underwear is showing when they are sitting down! I usually do but is not something I like to do because women can get quite sensitive on these issues. It is not only that their skirts are low cut but also their tops are so short that they tried to pull it down but it won't reach to cover most of the waist, hence when they sit, they expose themselves.

4. Women wearing long skirts with high cuts on the sides where you can see their garments! Or skirts with high cuts at the back where you can see the garments as well.

5. And this one I just saw a couple of Sundays ago. This woman came to Church with a extremely fitted white top where she revealed her whole black underwear.

The saddest thing of all, a lot of these sisters are leaders.

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I live in Southern Arizona. It gets at most about 115 fahrenheit(46 Celsius) in the summer but we have pretty good Air Conditioning. It has not really been a problem where we live, but I could see where it could be.

The Young Women and Young Men Leadership in our ward is very attentive to the dress of the youth. They are willing to take the youth aside and discuss privately with them the need to dress appropriately. This is usually has never been a problem.

Young men are unable to pass the sacrament unless they are wearing a White shirt and a tie. This is not really something that has to be enforced, the young men pretty much police themselves, and it was something that I remember doing when I was a deacon (about twenty years ago).

My mom was the Relief Society President up until a few months ago, and she set a wonderful example for the rest of the women in the ward. She would use the "For the Strength of the Youth" Pamphlet that was made for the youth but she felt that the older women needed to learn this too. This is one of those things in the church which I pretty much considered scripture (As it was given by the first presidency) and not as a suggestion.

It has always been a guide for me.

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I am not sure how one changes dress norms when it has been a certain way for so long , But I believe it starts at the top with leadership. If we are teachers in a class and such topics come up we have the authority to teach these doctrines. If we are bishops, Young women and men advisors we can counsel with love appropriate dress and behavior. That is our jobs as leaders.

Ultimately we as Parents regardless of what others are doing or teaching can teach our children the rules of modesty.

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Bad dress is one thing... but what is amazing to me is when these same people are called as Leaders and STILL dress badly. then again, what were the ones who called them thinking - that the calling would hit them with a morality stick?

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I went visiting teaching this week and my companion came in with shorts and tennis shoes. She told me she just came from a workout class. She is married and born in the church. I would think she was a temple goer. I work out twice a week and certainly don't dress like that. I certainly would not go to someones's home and give a visiting teacher message dress like that either.
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For the past few years I have lived in a ward that is predominated by older people, so I have not seen too many members coming to church dressed immodestly. I do know that it can be a problem. I believe it to be a direct reflection on the leadership of the branch or ward. It is their duty to confront a member that is dressed immodestly and let them know that it is inappropriate, and to let them know why.

Inappropriate dress is a harder question to tackle. There are many views on what is inappropriate. JB seems to be a hard liner, and that is fine for him. I really appreciated the article that LDS_Forever quotes from lds.org and I think it hits a good point. The point being that those who have access to the nicer clothes seem to be more slovenly in their appearance at church.

Over the years I have been involved in the young mens program and I have required all of them to where a white shirt and tie, because they are officiating in an ordinance. When I ask them to wear a white shirt and tie I always explain to them why. In all of the years that I have been over young men I have never had a kid that has had a problem with it. However I don't believe that just because our young men, or whoever passes the sacrament, are asked to where white shirts and ties I don't think it means that regular attendees must also wear them too. I will admit that 99% of the time I do, but occasionally I will wear something colored and I don't think it is inappropriate. The subject of white shirts is summed up quite effectively by Gofish below:

I believe we should wear clean clothes, that cover our bodies modestly, and show our respect for the lord, and each other, while we are in his presence. This means at church, and in our visiting/home teaching, as well as any capacity involving our church duties. I think this also means in our homes. Our children and our childrens friends watch everything that we do. In a brief moment of some "wardrobe malfunctions" my niece noticed my wife's garments under her dress. She asked her why she was wearing her garments with a dress? My wife replied that she wears her garments all the time, to which my niece responded, "my friends mom says you don't have to wear garments if you are wearing a dress." This prompted a learning session of sorts with my niece.

DBackers I think your comment is great. I also find women to be more attractive when more is left to the imagination, and less is left open to the breeze.