Alskann:
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I only mentioned it because it does seem to matter to some people and those are usually the ones who like to pass condescending judgment on those who do not kowtow to how they interpret things should be done. |
Rather off topic, but...
I am pretty sure they usually allow someone to enter the building for that purpose or you may have to go home to do your thing. |
I don't really care either way. I think it is perfectly fine if a ward or branch wants to hold a Halloween party - in or out- of the church building. I have known wards to have some really fun activities with really cool spook alleys.
Activities are tools for fellowship and missionary work. As long as there is appropriate supervision and organization and there are no blatant "against doctrine' aspects I see nothing wrong with it.
In my last ward our relief society president was against everything, halloween, Santa Clause, you name it. She did not even let her children watch the Wizard of Oz, because it was "too scary." Her kids ran out of "Finding Nemo," because they were so upset the mother was killed. I served in the RS presidency with her, I felt her opinions "stifling." I think the ward really suffered under her reign. In fact, I moved, the ward was so "I don't know, how to explain it," but friendly is not one of the words I would use to describe this ward. Also, when my husband was laid off for an entire year, these members did not rise to the occasion and even as much as brought us a plate of cookies. I think when you start getting nit-picky about activities, whose purpose is to unite a ward family, you risk destroying the spirit of the ward.
In my opinion, there are people in our church who are really really good at following rules, so good they make up some of their own to follow, they follow these rules because it makes them feel better than the others....pride.
Yes activities should be planned with careful thought, but I was very excited to see the invitation for my primary aged children to attend a Halloween function sponsored by the Youth (whom I have two of). I love this ward, it has a wonderful spirit.
Ohh my, you may be my Relief Society President. I honestly did not mean to disrespect her, but the facts are she controlled every activity in that ward for 7 years (thus the word reign), and the facts are that the ward suffered. This was simply an observation on my part, actually quite eye-opening. Also, if you take a good hard look at her family, I would have to say her tactics were unsucessful, seeing that her son got sent home from his mission for being immoral. See the kid was so controlled, so sheltered, when he got out in the real world, he had no idea how to deal with choice, temptation, freedom. This, in my opinion, all rolls together.
However, before I left that ward, I was called to serve with her in Primary as a co-teacher, it was a blessing to me, because I left that ward appreciating her. I think that when her son completely humiliated her, she somehow changed, she softened, she became less controlling, she became more tolerant.
My observation is and I stand by it....if you want success with realtionships, be that your ward family, your family, your friends, you can't control every situation by claiming "What would Jesus do," that is a control-tactic; whether you want to admit that to yourself or not. And quite honestly, I think if my ward family was having a Halloween Party and Jesus decided to visit us, he would grab a hand-full of candy, and say boo. I would absoutely not be ashamed of wearing a Dracula costume in his presence.
The Jesus I envision, healed a blind man on the sabbath....Ohh, my, that was considered evil...but was it really evil? Obviously not, but trying to control others...is evil.
I wonder how much success you have had with your nit-picky rules? And I'm not trying to insult you, I honestly would like to know?