Pianomom:
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I also know that the more children I have had, the more Christlike characteristics I have developed. I think I am more patient, loving, and understanding with 5 children than I was when we had 1 or 2 |
I found that I pretty much mellowed with age. As a young parent I had higher behavioral expectations for my children. As each child came along (and I aged) those expectations became more realistic. I gained more patience (perhaps through experience?) and learned to discern what really mattered and what I could let slide. Thus the comments from the older children at times, "I would have never got away with that!" To which I respond, "well then I guess I've learned something over the years."
As you add to your family it becomes easier for several reasons, some that have been mentioned. Two of which are:
One - you learn and mature as a parent.
two - Your children are growing and becoming more able to help. By the time you have a 3rd child the oldest is usually getting close to school age.
It is important to give our children responsibilities and teach them to love work. It is equally important for them to help with younger siblings. This is the beginning of their apprenticeship as future parents. The key is to know where the boundaries are. Parental responsibility should never be subjugated to the children. But if you are going to survive a large family everybody has to do their share.
Edited: alskann on 11th Jun, 2008 - 3:11am
Alskann:
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Parental responsibility should never be subjugated to the children. |
Mormons in general are known to have large families, but depending where you live you may find acceptance or rejection in your decision to have a large family. My question is: How is it possible for Church members (Who are supposed to know about the Plan of Salvation) to criticize, ridicule or look "funny" to a family that decides to continue extending it? I fully understand the world's view but within the Church?