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Apologizing

I hate it when you get into a fight with someone, and nothing ever gets settled until YOU apologize, I'm always the first one to apologize, and if I didn't, sometimes I think things would always stay unsettled, it's really annoying. Is anyone else like that?

Apologizing

It's true sometimes, we have to humble ourselves and apologize -- even if the fight itself was not something we "started." I have a really bad temper, and I find myself having to apologize a lot But even if I am on the receiving end of someone else's anger, I'll apologize to get things settled.

After a lifetime of anger and bitterness, I need to let go of it and soften my heart.

Roz

Apologizing Health & Special Psychology

I think we all went through that Xtra, I suppose that it depends with who you get into a fight with, because when is somebody that you really love then is easier to take the first step even if you haven't done anything wrong....I mostly apologize only if I feel I was wrong, if I wasn't the one who did wrong then I leave the other person a chance to think about it for a while

Apologizing

I do apologize if I did something that may have sparked off the disagreement and/or arguement. Because, if I am wrong, I will try to settle it and if I am not at fault I will apologize, but it really depends on what the situation is. My mom always told me that it takes the bigger person to apologize first. I'm still not quite sure why she told me that, but I work with what she told me.

Apologizing

I find there are some people who just would never even think to apologize first, but if you extend the olive branch first, they will be very responsive and then apologize back to you. I will then usually say I am sorry first, but if the problem continues with that same person, after a while, I might not be so quick to say I am sorry. You have to decide how important the relationship is to you with that person. If it isn't important, then when you get fed up, just don't apologize if you feel you did nothing wrong. However, if the relationship is important to you, and they won't apologize, you will need to.

In cases, where the relationship is important to me, I will apologize even if I am not sorry for what I said. I will say I am sorry for how things got so heated or I am sorry if I offended them, etc. This is not a lie. If I care about the person, then I am sorry for having the fight even if I feel justified in what I said. I have learned just like Farseer, that it is better to let go of the anger and move passed the disagreement.

Apologizing

i apologise only if i know i am at fault. I dont think i have ever apologised when i didnt think i was wrong. That doesnt mean that i hold a grudge though. I always act like the bigger person, in that i make up with the person. Some people have a habit of getting into an argument and then not wanting to talk after....and pouting of course!...i am not like that...if something is wrong..it doesnt mean we cant still be nice to one another after it has blown over.

This may sound strange..but i dont like people to apologise to me. It makes me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed in a way. Ive always said.."i dont want you to apologise...i just want you to understand where im coming from". To me thats the most important thing. The word "sorry" wont guarantee that the same mistake wont be made again..but UNDERSTANDING the situation will allow one to learn what is appropriate the next time.

Apologizing

I also hate apologizing for things which I am not responsible for, but sometimes that is the only way to end a quarrel. When I am at fault, though, I am quick at apologizing, because I will feel guilty of the outcome, and would want to to escape that feeling and show the one that I am sorry.

Apologizing Psychology Special & Health

Alright, it looks like I'm the stubborn one here. I don't apologize if its not my fault. If the other thinks it is, I can debate calmly, but I wont admit fault where no fault is evident. Sometimes aargumentslast longer, but me and my wife have learned when to stop and only ooccasionallyargue. I don't general keep friends around that wont except me for who I am, if I have to apologize simply because they will not, then we may have some issues because I wont apologize just to appease the situation.