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I won't say I am wrong if I don't believe I was, but I can still apologize. I can still say I am sorry for the upset feelings, or the anger or the misunderstanding or whatever. If I truly care for the person, no matter how right I may feel I am, at some point, I will feel sorry for the disagreement we are having. For that, I can always apologize. I must admit, though, that apology probably won't come in the middle of the actual argument, but later, after I have has sufficient time to consider the "discussion" and also to consider how important that particular person and that particular relationship are to me.

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I am also like this and agree that if a relationship is worthwhile to me, then I don't mind being the first to apologize, even if it is simply apologizing for the disagreement we are in and/or the way the other person feels. When I say that I'm sorry I always mean it, I never say it without meaning it. It does not annoy me to be the first one to apologize. I would rather be happy than be right and there are times that apologizing first is the thing to do that will make me feel the happiest. If I am in the wrong, I will feel bad until I have tried to apologize. I have no desire to injure anybody. I am not afraid to admit when I am wrong, even though I don't like to be wrong. I will apologize especially in the case that I am wrong or have made a mistake, when I recognize it. Sometimes, though, the other person might not want to hear it or needs time before that apology can be made.

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I have no problem apologizing if I think I am wrong...but receiving the apology is a very different matter to me. First of all, if the person is not related to me in any way (he/she is not a friend or blood related) then of course my feelings would not be affected at all. If the person apologises I would accept the apology, maybe not neccesarily by saying I accepted, but by giving them another chance. Now, if after that, the person keeps falling short in the same thing with me and apologising, falling short in the same thing and apoligising, and on and on and on and on, I would definetly think the person is just talking and they do not really mean they are sorry. I think when you are truly sorry, you take into consideration the feelings of other people and try very hard to do your best but if you keep doing the wrong thing in just matter of days, then you was not never sorry in the first place. This is my personal feelings about it.

People sometimes just say the word "I am sorry" so stiffed and automatic that they expect you to say "Is all right, don't worry about it", if you do not...they are surprised...they are shocked...they do not want to hear anything else. They even apoligized saying they are sorry and the shortest word that comes after that apology is the word "but". Nothing is worst than someone trying to apologise and trying to tell you "but" after that...as Kimberly Johnson said:

"Never ruin an apology with an excuse"

Edited: LDS_forever on 20th Feb, 2005 - 6:21pm

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I think that LDs is right on this one. If a person is truly sorry and has apologized they shouldn't keep being out of order over and over, if they do, then I don't think they were genuinely repentant to start with.

I believe that everybody should be entitled to a second chance, but they shouldn't blow it.

If I'm in the wrong, I'll apologize really quickly because I hate bad feeling and arguments, but if I feel that the other person is way out of line I try to throw a "landline" by suggesting maybe we have both said things we didn't mean, and try to find a compromise. People tend to fizzle out when offered a way out of it, and it saves loads of nasty unpleasant feelings in the long run.

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As to apologizing in a discussion with a spouse, it is OK to say something like "l love you" or "Can you hold me?". These words often move the conversation into something more positive. My spouse and I often use this on each other, and it is kind of a code word for I am hurt.

Also Men and Woman are different. Sometimes words mean different things to one spouse then to another. A man can save a lot of pain by noticing when his wife is hurt and trying to clarify what he said. Or quickly amending it if necessary.


To me its okay to say the tripe "We will have to agree to disagree". We sometimes get so anxious to prove ourselves right that we forget what we were arguing about and just fight.

Denise Prager one of my favorite thinkers said

If we go into a discussion with a spouse,friend, or even a political opponent with the idea "I am not trying to persuade the other person, but I do want to know where each side is coming from" then we usually will come out with a more agreeable attitude.