When you find a good Dungeon Master you hold on to him or her because they are hard to find. Its easier to get a good player or even groom a player to be good but you can't do the same with a Dungeon Master, its either they have it or they don't.
I play Fantasy Role Playing to escape from the real world. While I enjoy a certain amount of realism, where do you draw the line? Leveling by Experience is a good example. Logically, mastering almost any Feat in Dungeons & Dragons would take weeks, months, or even years of intense study and discipline, but instead we learn to do these things by killing monsters and overcoming obstacles. Not particularly realistic, but it works, and most importantly, it's fun.
Edited: Oinodaemon on 1st Mar, 2013 - 4:15am
Yeah being a great or even a good Dungeon Master/GM is not a easy task at times. You have a lot you as a Dungeon Master in your mind of what is happening or is going to happen and trying to get that picture in the players mind is not easy to do. I know I do not always get it right but I keep trying.
True to life is relative to the individual's experience and circumstance. For instance if you have never been poor it might be difficult role-play someone that is starving. You could probably attempt something but it might not be 'realistic'. However if you've researched it then you might have a better idea. If you've starved before then you will be so good at knowing what it's like that you can really describe it explicitly. So yes it is a big weight on the GM's shoulders to make it happen, that's why I'm just a player .
I like the role-play as well, but I notice some cannot handle it they may even be offended by it not knowing how to separate themselves from the characters they play. I think most see it as "Dice rolling" Rather "Role-playing".
Then, whether you prefer reality-gaming or role-playing (Not mutually exclusive of course), champion your cause! One of the joys of Role-playing Games is that when your turn arrives, you get to paint the picture: If you love realism, inspire the others with your honest brushstrokes of the gritty action.If you love roleplay, probe for hidden depths in the characters around you. In Play By Post adding your favourite flavour should be easier than ever, because you have time to compose an answer. Don't just respond, inspire!