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In other words, 'temple divorce' would probably be justified under normal circumstances ONLY if somebody in the relationship is doing the wrong thing and won't stop. |
Sorry, I was saying that in the context of one or both people in the couple wanting a temple divorce.
I also know a couple who were married in the temple, had 3 kids, divorced civilly, and are now remarried. It can happen.
For a covenant to be binding, those who make it have to keep it. However, the Lord is completely fair to all his children. Thus, if you and your spouse enter into Eternal Marriage, then your spouse chooses the wrong path while you keep your part of the covenant, the Lord cannot justly deny you any blessings associated with that covenant.
Bruce R. McConkie gave a talk called 'The Seven Deadly Heresies." In it, he mentioned that some suppose that they can enter into the covenant of eternal marriage, then commit all manner of wickedness and be saved in the end. This is false. He made it clear that temple marriage is a gate, just as baptism and confirmation, and that it does not guarantee salvation unless we abide by the terms and conditions of that sacred contract. He suggested we go to the temple and listen carefully in a sealing session to the commitments made in that ceremony. (I wish I had the text of that talk to quote it exactly. It was a BYU devotional.)
So my point is this: an individual cannot enter eternal marriage, commit grievous sin, divorce his or her spouse civilly, and then expect that the power of that eternal marriage will be of benefit to him or her in the hereafter. Just as David's wives were given to another, so we can permanently lose the relationships we hold dear if we choose to work against the commandments of God. This does not mean we must be perfect; it means we must do what we can, and invite Christ to make his Atonement effective in our family relationships. Those who keep their covenants have nothing to fear, even if their spouses do otherwise. However, those who violate those covenants cannot expect some type of free ride.
When one spouse stops believing
In a 2012 nonscientific online survey of 600 LDS couples with at least one nonbeliever, Utahn Greg Rockwell found that, of respondents in which only one spouse had left the church, 26 percent reported that they had divorced, were divorcing or were separated. Forty percent said they were still together but experiencing marital tension. Ref. Source 8
It's a complicated topic. I will be filing for divorce we've been married for over 7 years. The husband can't have a wife and a girlfriend. Once a cheater always a cheater. This is the second time he does it, and lets not talk about porn addiction. You have your agency and the company of the Holy Ghost guiding you to make the right choice. Nobody can judge a divorce because no one knows what really happens between the walls of that marriage. Its a personal matter between the Lord and you. Just rely on the Savior, that's what I'm doing.
He just said that he was sorry he hurted me. He's still texting and seeing this other women. He's been going to the addiction program (just 3 times) But I noticed on his phone that he's adiction or the kind of porn he's watching is worst, even more disgusting. He doesn't know what he wants. I do. With every text that he sends to her he is breaking his covenants. As I said this is not the first time he has an affair (I forgave and forgot the first one) But he has had two adventures with two different women in the past month and half, yeah, two different women. Someone that respects and loves his wife, and respect the covenants made with the Lord would NEVER put himself in the situation where you can fall in love with someone that it's not your spouse, nor in a situation where you get involve with a married woman (the woman he's seening is married) nor in a situation where you can kiss someone else, and then maybe breaking the law of chastity.
I'm not going to tell you I'm a saint, I have thought about young men being cute or attractive or just nice, But I have always withdraw from the dangerous of thinking like that, I know those can be temptations, and even Jesus was tempted, but when you go and act on those thoughts, IT IS VERY DIFFERENT. He's still texting & seeing her, and watching porn. He is not trying to make the situation better. He even thought about me meeting her, because he wants to convinced himself that the affair in not an affair, He then told me that that thought was very stupid, and I think the same.
Unfortunatly He did it once, now again(three times total, three women). I KNOW, I'm so sure if we just keep with the marriage in a couple of year when we are having hard times he's going to go and find himself a girl friend. I so Know that. And I do not want to go through all that pain and deppretion and feelings again. He promised me so many times he wasn;t going to watch porn, he wasnt going to text or have an affair or any kind of relationship with no one. He doesn't care about anything, my feelings nor the covenants he made.
Edited: ldsmom on 3rd Apr, 2013 - 1:45am