Could you imagine your spouse or close friend forgetting your Birthday? I am sure that would make you annoyed! We expect others to remember things about us, but we may not necessarily see it important to remember things about others. It is a normal part of life to forget, but what things should we never forget and how do you judge if a person is too forgetful?
I think this topic is hard to discuss because everything is relative. People prioritize things differently. I'm much more likely to remember things that are important to me, and things that are important to me may not be so important to somebody else. I think someone who is similar to "the absent-minded professor" is too forgetful - as in, when it gets to the extent that it seriously affects relationships and personal growth.
From a male point of view things we should never forget are
a)Your wedding anniversary
b)Your wifes/childrens birthdays
c)Mothers Day.
If you can remember these dates life is pretty simple. Forget them and all hell will break loose.
It's hard to judge whether a person is too forgetful. Maybe somebody who continually has to write things in their personal organiser is compensating for bad memory.
Your wedding anniversary is the most important one! what about your birthday? we always so concentrated in the b-days of others that sometimes we forget our own birthdays!. I'm a pretty forgetful person, not about dates and stuff but about things I need to do, that's why I try to write down everything so I don't forget.
For me memory retention can be measured based on the complexity of the task... for instance if you are asked to take out the garbage each day, but somehow forget then you have problems. If you are asked to memorize a list of word meanings in 20 minutes and then you are expected to recall it a month later then you are not necessarily forgetful. Most people refer to a person as forgetful if they continually ask them or remind them to do something and the person does not fulfill it because they have forgotten. This is usually associated with age, but not always. The other point is that some people choose to forget... yes, they value the importance of the information given and if it is not a top priority to them they somehow flush it out of the brain.
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The other point is that some people choose to forget... yes, they value the importance of the information given and if it is not a top priority to them they somehow flush it out of the brain. |
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The other point is that some people choose to forget... yes, they value the importance of the information given and if it is not a top priority to them they somehow flush it out of the brain. |
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I'm much more likely to remember things that are important to me, and things that are important to me may not be so important to somebody else. |
I said I wasnt' forgetful, but in reality I am becoming forgetful. In my younger days I forget just about nothing. I had an excellent memory. These days, I do not. I don't know if it is my age catching up to me or too much stress, but I am becoming more forgetful it seems every day.