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At school did you feel confident in asking your teacher a question if you did not understand what he/she was teaching or were you afraid that she/he would scold you for asking? If not the teacher, were you afraid that your fellow pupils would think you are trying to be the teacher's pet?
It depends on the teacher. In some classes I feel fine asking a question, because I figure if I don't understand something than there is probably someone else who doesn't understand it as well. I'm usually most comfortable when I know the teacher isn't going to make me feel stupid for asking the question. I'm much more confident asking questions on a one-to-one basis, like during office hours, than in class.
Sometimes I did feel weird about asking questions in front of every1,but I have always been very shy.I had very bad anxiety-but I still had to ask or get a bad grade.I would sit and try and figure it out for myself for a few.Then when the class is busy doing what the teacher asked us to do,and I still didnt understand the problem,I would sneak up and ask then.Its so important to ask those questions-if I did not,I would have gotten frustrated and quit trying.Passing school matters-what others think of you asking a few questions matters less.When I feel nervous or on the spot,I think, "those people over there arent going to be thinking about how nervous that girl they didnt know was acting last week in class".It makes all the worry I was feeding into the minor situation look a little funny,and it usually works for me.
I always felt uncomfortable asking questions in class, because I was afraid that everyone would think it was a dumb question, or that I should know the answer. As I progressed through school I learned that there is no dumb question, and I also found out that I learned a lot more from the questions that were asked by other students. I then realized that by asking questions, you probably are helping others who are afraid to ask the same or who hadn't thought about it. Asking questions is one of the advantages of a classroom setting and should be utilized frequently.
It has always depended upon the teacher/professor. There are some teachers that make it a point to make themselves very approachable, which is great. Right now I have a Western Civ. professor who is very intimidating, though I don't think that's how he intends to be. He's an amazing teacher, and I adore going to his class, but I always feel a bit sheepish when I have to go to his office to ask him something. He just has such a strong air about him that it makes a person feel really small. He doesn't do anything negative, it's just hte fact that he's very confident in himself.
As far as asking questions in front of other students, I got over my nerves about that a long time ago. I found that, most the time, when I ask a question, I realize that I was not the only person who was wanting to ask the question. I have a rather bold personality, especially when I'm in a classroom, and if I don't understand something, then I will definately ask. If somebody else thinks I'm stupid, good for them. It really doesn't matter what they think about my questions, because all that matters is my understanding of the issue, and that grade that shows up on my transcript at the end of the semester.
I ask more questions than many of my peers in my Uni classes, because I am paying approximately $20 per hour for the privilege of being in class. I am generally unwilling to waste that expensive time. In high school, by the time I was an upperclassman, I was comfortable enough with the teachers to ask questions, but I made more comments than questions, because I had a knack for picking up the material very quickly without taking notes. Now, I don't have to be comfortable with the professor - I just get my money's worth in my education.
In school, I would ask questions fairly freely. However, if I sensed that I was slowing down the class and I was basically the only one that did not get it, then I would let it go and ask the teacher later.
However, in the working world, the thought that the only dumb question is a unanswered one is really not true. In the working world you must be very concious of how you are viewed by others from the first moment you show up on the job. I have learned this one very quickly. I have a notebook with this saying on the front: God gave us 2 eyes, 2 ears and only one mouth. Thefore, we should see and hear twice as much as we speak!
Vincenzo