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Mormons & Marital Intimacy

Mormons & Marital Intimacy

Recently a thread was started about interviews and what can be asked. Some members once experienced being asked about their s-xual activities (within marriage). Now WITHOUT being GRAPHIC or DETAILED the discussion is... Are there wrong and right ways of being sexually intimate with your spouse? If there was/is, why is it left to each member, are there quotes about it or that suggest such, why was it once part of the interview?

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This is a very difficult thing to answer. As latter day Saints we know that in all things we must feel edified, and sexual intimacy is not the exception. When an activity doesn't edified you but makes you feel low and feel vulgar, then you know it is not appropiate. Early Prophets have been very specific about certain sexual practises within a marriage but it seems they stop mentioning them and they let the couple to decide what is right and what is not and I personally agree with it. We cannot have the First Presidency in the middle of our beds in the bedroom.

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Click on the link below for a letter from the First presidency back in 1982 regarding interviews and what should be discussed. you'll have to click on page 2 to see where the First presidency stated oral sex is an unholy and inpure practice. I have heard that they sent a follow up letter later recanting this position, as a result of considerable objections from church members, although I have never seen it. I think the follow up letter was supposed to have said that Bishops are not suppose to interpret what is unholy, it is up to each couple to determine this.


https://www.lds-mormon.com/worthy_letter.shtml

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Thanks for the reference, now I wonder what made them decide to change their minds. Now, if it be true that members began to kick up a storm about it, yet it be unholy, then why rescind it?

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I remember when my first husband and I were talking with our bishop once during an interview and this subject came up. The bishop mentioned that when he had interviewed another couple, and told them a particular sexual act was forbidden, the wife piped up and said, "But I like it." The bishop said he nearly fell out of his chair.

It was inappropriate, in my opinion, for the bishop to relate that piece of information to us -- it would have given someone the "head's up" that they had better not admit if they were indulging in that practice, because they would not get their recommends. I don't remember now what it was, but it was in 1981.

Roz

Mormons & Marital Intimacy

Two reasons maybe:

1) The Church realize that sexual intimacy is something too intimate to discuss about, can you imagine the members having tons of questions about sexual practises, whether it is okay or not, sexual positions and other issues? It will even give ideas to already married couples what things they should do. Therefore is up to the couple now to decide that.

2) Pressure. As my dear friend Nighthawk would say, 'To please once more Babylon'

I stick with my first point but I don't know really the answer.

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In this case, I don't think that rescinding the original statement was to please Babylon. I think it was more a case that the First Presidency realized that it wasn't appropriate for bishops and branch presidents to be asking such detailed questions. In fact, I have heard stories that when detailed questions are asked, it actually promotes people to search out more information and get involved in such practices.

It may have also been a move away from a bit of legalism.

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My personal view follows in line with Nighthawk's. Now the next question is what is the right and wrong way of sexual intimacy. The First Presidency has already given us one - they said that oral sex is wrong. This may or may not make you wonder what else may be 'wrong' for you to do in bed, but as it says... we need to find out from the Lord. Sad thing is... so many people seem to get so many different 'answers' from the Lord.